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Sensation play can be a part of BDSM, but it doesn’t have to be all pain if that’s not what you’re into. To discover what aftercare activity is right for you, start by thinking about what soothing activities you enjoy or what grounds you when your emotions are heightened or you feel disconnected, advises Frye-Nekrasova. A 2019 systematic scoping review suggests that it allows people to assert dominance by giving them total control and power over the situation. Similarly, a 2020 study notes that many practitioners find the giving, taking, and exchanging of power to be sexually arousing. First off, talking with your partner beforehand would be extremely beneficial, as you can then discuss your individual roles, your interests, limits, and anything else that you feel is important. If you’re a total knot newbie, look into easy-release knots and knots that can hold someone tightly, Brame says. Some people love the column knot (a.k.a. wrapping rope in a column and making a knot), while others prefer a simple overhand knot, she adds. It’s just a matter of personal taste! For first timers, Brame recommends a simple wrist tie. “You can tie wrists overhead and attach with extra ropes to a headboard, or you can tie wrists down in front and secure them at the waist by wrapping the rope ends around the waist,” she explains. For those who are more advanced (and have consent), try a four-point or spread-eagle tie, which gives four points of attachment—two for the wrists and two for the ankles. “The result is that your partner’s body is fully open to whatever sensations you want to give them,” she says.

While this fantasy is somewhat impeded by the pandemic, you could start to lay the groundwork by browsing dating apps together and starting conversations with people who might want to meet when that’s allowed again. Gender-bending If you’re one of those interested parties who has never done it before, you might want to start with smaller toys first and talking with your partner about the possibility of douching. Sensation playIt can also include role playing where one person is more authoritative than the other (such as teacher and student). Evidence suggests that 58.9% of males and 54.4% of female BDSM practitioners list bondage sex as one of their favorite BDSM activities. Additionally, a 2015 study investigating females in the kink community adds that bondage is a preferable activity, with more than 85% of individuals indicating they participate in bondage for sensual or erotic pleasure. A lot of people that engage in kink actually find they are dominant in their everyday lives, while in scenes they prefer to take a submissive role and give their dominant side a rest,” says Frye-Nekrasova. If you’re willing to do that, then full steam ahead. If not, then hopefully you won’t have to wait too long… Rough sex

Aftercare is when the Dom and sub have some connection time. This can look like cuddling, bringing the sub a glass of water, talking through the scene, and much more. As with boundary negotiation, you’ll need to take time to figure out what kind of aftercare you and your partner(s) need. The conversation you have after the experience is just as much a part of sex as the acts themselves,” says Richmond. This conversation is a chance to debrief by asking your partner(s) about what they enjoyed most and what they were thinking when you, say, lightly spanked them.

Frequently Asked Questions About Bed Restraints and Under-the-Bed Ties 

While Dom/sub dynamics are primarily found in kink, they actually play out in most forms of sex. One person is usually the more submissive partner, while the other is more dominant. But within the context of BDSM, these dynamics become even more explicit. BDSM stands for bondage, Dominance/Dominant, submissive/submission, and sadomasochism. This is when two or more people engage in consensual power exchange. The sub willingly hands over the power within the scene to the Dominant.

Before you get into BDSM, you need to work out what you really want from submission. If you have a sign saying you’re here for the taking, people will take advantage of it.’ So around one third of my inbox just took the p**s, and another third of guys were just gross, saying things like: “Hey babycakes.”Also, keep in mind that BDSM can take a little prep work, says Jess O’Reilly, PhD, sexologist and host of the @SexWithDrJess Podcast. “Because BDSM can include activities that are new, intimidating, and risky, you need to proceed with care and caution,” she says. “Don’t assume that you can dive in head-first and re-enact a scene from a film or erotic novel without preparation, education, or experience.” Along with being thought of as erotic, shibari – or the ancient Japanese art of bondage – is also used for mental stimulation and relaxation. Monieau’s path which lead to her foray into the world of BDSM is an unusual one, as she grew up in the Mormon community, whom stress their strict law of chastity – consisting of abstaining from sex outside of marriage, and shunning inter-marital affairs or homosexual relationships.