Training Her Husband: Femdom Rules

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Also somewhere in this I spoke about how I was not good at reading hints and that I liked to know exactly what I was doing right or wrong. I mentioned that I would like her to help me be better by spanking me but she was not enthusiastic about that. Her comment being that I was not a child and she did not want to treat me as a child. You can experiment with impact play if your sub is on board with the idea, but if it’s new to either of you, make sure you move slowly. This is a lesson of your domination and his respect of you. He will NOT want to do this, but he will on your command. Demand it! As he is doing it, enjoy it. Make this a positive event, and FROM THIS POINT FORWARD YOU MAKE HIM EAT HIS CUM. If a whip is a little too much for your tastes, try a paddle instead. A paddle has a wider surface area, so it’s less painful and usually a better impact play tool for beginners. It’s great for spanking. 5. Handcuffs

When should you set your sub rules? Do you write them down on a piece of paper? Store them electronically? Tell them to your sub one by one? Seriously, one of the first things stated is that these rules should be negotiated with the sub and that they should be customized to YOUR dynamic. This article covers many types of dynamics, which is likely why you think the rules are “porn driven” and not just a different dynamic. My dynamic is purely sexual, so I’m sure my list would make you think the same. S-types are not idiots, so I don’t understand your comment about keeping to one style of syntax less you confuse the sub?Husband must present himself naked in a high state of cleanliness EACH night before bedtime. Teeth and hair brushed, body clean - especially the penis, nails cut short, for her to inspect. Penis MUST be erect during inspection for her satisfaction. If body is unshowered or dirty, he will sleep naked on the couch. After a few weeks of dating my sub, and after I’d got to know her preferences, both in sexually and generally what type of submissive she way (Try my What Sub Personality Are You? quiz as well as my What is a sub? And what types of sub exist? article for more information) I began to start formulating the types of rules I wanted her to follow.

Jessica's Rules includes femdom, wifedom, tease and denial, edging, orgasm control, cum eating, spanking, CBT, humiliation and begging. Your job as Dom is to create a safe space where they can be vulnerable, to know their boundaries, and be creative within those boundaries. Any ‘forcing’ that happens is about creating an experience for the sub and nothing more. Housework (There are things she wants to do herself, I have to do the rest. There are exceptions, for example if there is simply not enough time, then she does it herself. No problem as long as it is justified and rare.).

The night is hers. If she does not want to go out to dinner, does not want to go out for a drink, does not want sex, or does not wish to watch a movie together, then accept her wishes and move on. Do what SHE wants to do, and understand the pressures and strains she is under

William had one more beer with his neighbor Morris than he should have, but Morris had insisted that they were talking about important things like how to grow greener grass on the golf course and who was hotter 40 years ago: Olivia Newton-John, or Cher. William didn't want to look like a wussy so he accepted one more beer. As required by rule number four, he then reported his arousal level at eight out of ten and he humbly requested his next assignment. Control of his dress in your home is very important to controlling your man. A rule of nudity in the home is a simple and effective way to make him feel exposed, powerless and servile. For more information, see the CFNM section and the dress styles section. Some basic rules for submissives I read were spot on, and did reflect my kinks and desires for a partner. For example, the ruleRemote rules. These rules are for domming your sub when she isn’t with you. She might be on holiday with the gals, or live separately from you. In this situation its important you remind her who’s boss from time to time. Oh, that was sweet," said Jessica, "as hard as I could make it. I do so hope that was hard enough for you, because that's the best I've got. Go ahead now, ask for the next one, honey, as soon as you're ready." When it comes to punishment, your FLR is very different from mine. I do get penalties. With the whip, the paddle or the cane if violent offenses have occurred. Masturbation or lying would be something like that, for example. Then it will really hurt. My wife gets great satisfaction when I beg to stop and vow to do better. Above all, she enjoys the power to comply or not to comply with my begging. Unfortunately, she feels just as comfortable in the role of the kind as in the role of the unimpressed. The latter more often.

Whilst I might set this as a rule if I was to run a high protocol BDSM scene as a one-off, it isn’t something I would want enforced all day every day. There’s a certain liberty that comes with completely giving up control like that. The sub doesn’t have to think about anything other than following instructions. They don’t have to worry about how good the sex is for their partner; they just have to do as they’re told. As such, they can fully let go of any anxiety or worry and lose themselves in the moment. The Thrill of Fear, Degradation, and Pain I know all about growing so I need a complete stranger female or male deciding and then writing things trying to cancel me out . My pussy and ass also belong to Daddy. I give him full permission to use my holes as he sees fit, at any time of the day or night.

Some Rules for the Working Submissive

The sub willingly gives up control because they enjoy being submissive. The key term here is willingly . The sub still has the ultimate control and gets to set his/her limits and boundaries beforehand — they have the final say about what you can/can’t do. As a Dom, it’s essential that you respect those boundaries. There are some things that are mandatory tools to train your mate. These fall into the core categories below. These are the things that truly get into your mates psyche and allows you to dominate them thus making them into a more affectionate and living thing. There are other things that we can do just to push the boundaries of our control, although these are not necessarily they can help reinforce the dominance and at the very least could bring enjoyment and pleasure to you. The fall under the auxiliary category. I will give a brief break down in the next couple chapters of why each is important along with some suggestions for the activities. There are many different types of Doms. Everyone has his/her own flavor of kink, and the same is true when it comes to dominance. Terminology is a big deal. Names and titles evoke power, so it’s important you think carefully about yours. The name you insist that your sub refers to you as will set expectations for the whole scene. Thank you sweetheart, I do so appreciate the time you spend meeting my ridicules, kinky fetishes, and I am sorry for being late for the nice evening you had planned."