What Women Want: Conversations on Desire, Power, Love and Growth

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This sleight of hand I might have put up with as merely rhetorical game-playing, had the book not been not riddled with significant errors, and many of its arguments fundamentally flawed. When assessing a mating market, pay attention to the quality of men who are your rivals as well as the women present there. You're not being measured against all men on Earth, just those you're in relative proximity to. Nie tylko przedstawia nam siedem kobiet z różnych środowisk - każda z własnymi emocjonalnymi bitwami, ranami i wyzwaniami, ale także oferuje wgląd w jej własne zaangażowanie w ich terapeutyczne interakcje. The author’s writing is incredibly powerful and resonating. I loved how she ended the book with a personal touch - as recollects her own desires as a little girl, as she stood up to the challenge herself as an immigrant, an outsider - achieving her ambitions & pursuing her passion. The book is well written, and shares stories of seven different women who all have been in psychotherapy with Maxine Mei-Fung Chung for shorter or longer times. It gives a good description of the interaction between the women seeking help and the professional and how the sessions help them to develop as persons, and in some cases reclaim their own personalities. There is plenty of detail and I liked how Maxine Mei-Fung Chung guides the clients through the sessions with tender probing and open questions.

Your body scent has a complicated physiology influenced by what you eat, how you exercise, how much you sleep and hydrate, how much you sweat, and what your hormone levels are. This means your natural scent is a pretty informative signal of your overall health." It's frustrating. Whelan's got some good ideas, many of them unfashionable and unpalatable in the context of contemporary feminist discourse, and I admire her directness in expressing them (more sensibly here than in her inflammatory articles). When she talks about what she thinks feminists should be focusing on, her ideas are perfectly sound: easier access to abortion, decriminalisation of sex work, state childcare; policies that help disadvantaged and marginalised women rather than making things cosier for the already well-educated and well-off. But What Women Want feels like it would have been infinitely better as a short essay. In trying to expand her arguments, Whelan only manages to expose the flaws in them. Getting ahead isn’t always on a special characteristic but it’s becoming more pushed and that’s unfair to everyone who earns the merit the right way. Generally speaking, it works like this: Men compete more for short-term sex, and women compete more for long-term commitment. For most young men, getting laid is the ultimate sexual outcome. For most women, getting a guy to go steady as her boyfriend is a major milestone; getting him to propose marriage is the ultimate outcome. Read that section again and again until it is seared into your brain: men compete for sex, and women compete for commitment."

Tia berichtet von ihren Rassismus-Erfahrungen durch den eigenen, weißen Vater. Sie hat sich ihr Erscheinungsbild verändern lassen und ihr jamaikanische Wurzeln verleugnet. Sie ist hart zu sich und ihrer Tochter. Fühlt sich einsam, nirgendwo zugehörig. A very fun, funny, and potentially useful book for many [young] men to read, but of very mixed quality. misrepresentation of intelligence/g: the authors group “emotional intelligence”, “social intelligence” and “practical intelligence” under g, but g comprises reasoning, spatial ability, memory, processing speed, and vocabulary, while EI, SI and PI are not psychometrically / scientifically validated forms of “intelligence”. As a psychologist, Miller should know better. This sort of glaring scientific accuracy unfortunately makes me doubt the veracity of many of the other claims in the book. Of course there's no single answer. Women want many things. Different women want different things. And they’re not all represented by The Spice Girls, whose song Wannabe the author quotes in a witty epigraph. Part of the strength of this book lies in the diversity of its subjects, with different ages, ethnicities and sexual orientations represented. but also wasn’t there, beneath the details, something—to be overwhelmed, to have no choice in the matter, wasn’t there something—Obviously not if you were drunk. Obviously not your first time. Obviously not if you didn’t, somewhere deeper, somewhere—less acceptable and so less accessible, really want it. But no, that was what they said, what rapists said, that the girl, the woman, had really wanted it. So no, in addition, there would—I mean there would have to be some kind of understanding, it couldn’t be just the man’s—But if there was. I mean, mightn’t it, couldn’t it—To be in someone else’s power, not to have to make decisions, to be in fact prevented from making all decisions except where to move your—in fact maybe those decisions also were being made for you so that … Something to do with being chosen, something to do with release of responsibility. Could what the graduate student did be wrong and what I sometimes felt I wanted also be right.

The framing of any feminist concept Whelan doesn't like as 'anti-working-class' is also on shaky ground. I can't offer anything more than anecdotal evidence, but I know loads of working-class women who'd call themselves feminists and care about the issues disparaged in this book. After a while, the continued insistence that working-class women don't give a shit about feminism starts to seem exactly like the sort of patronising assumption Whelan keeps accusing her opponents of.Loved reading this book. Analyzing the millions of years of evolution involved, it's a practical and educational read filled with humor on an incredibly important and misunderstood subject with a research-based approach. She explains how as a therapist, she deeply get affected by the feelings of her patients, how she works on slowly building trust, confidence and how with time, this connection and collaboration between them blossoms, kindling compassion, acceptance, growth and consideration that they are only human. Confidence is the realistic expectation you have of being successful at something given a) your competence at it and b) the risk involved with doing it

What's on the inside is very important, but your traits are judged based solely on your observable behaviour. Be clear of what you want, make sure you're in the right place, get your shit together (health and basic wealth) and make sure you display the right signals. Paranoia lernte ich hier viel Neues. Die Geschichten gehen einem nah, auch wenn man selbst nicht von allen Problemen betroffen ist. Da war auch eine Mutter, deren Sohn es nicht geschafft hat und sie den Fehler bei sich suchte. Da kann das Herz kaum kalt bleiben. She was spot on about Vagina Voting, Pussy protesting… and the sheer push for women to be solely defined by their bodies over capabilities! I raised my children, a son who respects women and sees them as equal and a daughter that knows her body isn’t her selling point but her mind.

The story of every woman we meet here is extraordinary and really shook me to the core. I was in awe of Maxine’s systematic yet realistic approach. Together, they dissect their pasts, examine the current, process grief, trauma and ruminate about the future. The breakdown in mating strategies - Short-term/medium-term/long-term. I mansplained this to a girl I was seeing and she felt compelled to read the book, although it is geared towards men. As large numbers of women become steadily wealthier, more powerful, and more independent, their choices and preferences are transforming our commercial environment in a variety of important ways, from the cars we drive to the food we eat; from how we buy and furnish our homes to how we gamble, play, and use the Internet—in short, how we spend our time and money. I have to admit I was between four and five stars, but considering the importance of the topics, and how impactful they were the book no doubt deserves five stars. Confidence requires that you go through the anxiety of trying something like this long before you feel ready.

Definately worth it if you want to learn about life, and though I am a man, I could definately identify with all the people and situations. I am of course not the target market for this book, but I was very curious after reading about it at http://jakeseliger.com/2015/09/23/bri... and considering essays like http://slatestarcodex.com/2014/08/31/... which made me want to be more compassionate towards lonely, awkward young men who may want to do the right thing but don't have any guides that aren't douches. I mean, I do think Nice Guy syndrome is totally a thing, but maybe outside of religious institutions, I can see how there isn't much information out there to concretely teach young heterosexual men how to become better people, if they didn't figure it out on their own or have good role models around. Ultimately, this is a book about female desire, which is still a taboo subject for many - just ask Madonna. Or ask any of the women featured (in disguised form) here. Forbidden desires are a recurring theme - from the bride-to-be struggling with her sexuality to the mother grappling with questions of identity. Through her conversations with these women, the author explores questions of denial, longing, repression and shame - as well as hope, joy and liberation. Respond with validation, insight, or debate (yes, disagreeing is good, so long as it’s respectful and in fun) Pióro autorki jest mocne i rezonujące. Zakończenie książki osobistym akcentem było miłym zaskoczeniem.Easy out and easy escalation. If it’s bad, a way to go after an hour, but if it’s good a “next stop” to go to (e.g. dinner, dancing). So does she support abortion at any stage of pregnancy? Is she in favour of what some argue is infanticide? We never find out. The subjects of Topics of Conversation are sex and power, but Popkey is most interested in the nature of female desire, particularly the desire to relinquish agency. In this, the novel might best be understood as a retort to the received wisdom of the recent, critically lauded fictional and nonfictional #MeToo narratives. Providing the most delicate of hand-holding that prioritizes their desires, Maxine nudges them gently to process emotions, encourages them to conquer their fears and embrace change, that finally promotes their individual growth and improves relationships . In "What women want" von Maxine Mei-Fung Chung schreibt die Therapeutin, die selbst jahrelang in Therapie war über 7 Patientinnen, die bei ihr in Therapie waren. Zu ihrem eigenen Schutz wurden die Namen natürlich geändert.