How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids

Product Information

New York City–based time management consultant Julie Morgenstern told me to ask myself this game-changing question if I was about to pick a fight: “What does this cost me? How mad are you on a scale of 1 to My Husband is Napping’ goes the winning meme that perhaps only new mums understand. And I’m certain that this period—when we are in the thick of responding to the needs of our tiny, beautiful humans, with a little less time and patience for one another—will strengthen the bond we’ve built, and deepen our ability to empathize. g., frequency of sex, who does more housework, who should get up with the child in the middle of the night, why women need to have a clean house, why men need more alone time, and many more. Tom and I took a page from the growing new field of financial therapy, which has people explore their lifelong relationships with money.

I discovered all kinds of ways that Tom showed he cared about me — to the point where it became my new confirmation bias.Try to realize that you’re not the only new parent in this relationship, so stop hovering and give him some freedom to be a co-parent.

This behavior can range from making all baby-related decisions without consulting him, to criticizing how he dresses the baby (“Hello, where’s his sweater? You need to negotiate weekend time, and ask each other ‘what are we doing this weekend that meets everyone’s needs? How could I go from loving someone so much, creating little human beings with that person, and then suddenly having such an angry inner dialogue about them? offers readers a hilarious and scientific look at how men and women differ in both their workloads and feelings about child care and home chores.

Think about it: Scraping food off of plates is gross, it is constant, and traditionally, women have been the ones stuck doing it. I am grateful to live and work as an uninvited settler on the unceded territory of the Coast Salish peoples, including the territories of the xʷməθkwəy̓əm (Musqueam), Skwxwú7mesh (Squamish), and Səl̓ílwətaʔ/Selilwitulh (Tsleil-Waututh) Nations.