Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies: And other rituals to fix your life, from someone who's been there

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I'm sure Tara is a cool person with great things to say - I just wish she hadn't presented it to everyone as self care. That small, pleasurable thing that makes you feel like you are treating yourself – do not deprive yourself of this.

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Tara wrote a very honest and insightful book about coming from difficult beginnings and realizing that she didn’t have the knowledge or skills she needed in life so she set out to teach them to herself and learn how to be a functioning successful adult and develop the skill sets she needed. Tara Schuster has done something remarkable: She’s written a guide to facing the slings and arrows of life that’s both delightfully irreverent and disarmingly earnest. I thought that was life: a series of problems to be tackled until you have lived another day, only to face a new disaster. Honest and practical lessons for healing your past and owning your future so you can radiate strength, bravery, and joy when life gets dark. She doesn’t need that promotion to afford them or a husband to do it for her, respecting and loving yourself is too important not to splurge sometimes just because the flowers are too pretty to pass up.She does come off as very privileged and while I love that she was up front with that, I couldn't really relate to her life, and the pop psychology/girl, I got you vibe of this book kind of made this feel like a secular version of GIRL, WASH YOUR FACE, which I really can't stand. This book also emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and self-care, which I also think are really important. I found it to be a kind of self help book with lots of ideas of things to try for changing the negative voice in your head, and just getting more positive about your life. And it was in these journals that Schuster discovered where her hurts originated and began to imagine what future actions might heal those wounds. Tara Schuster is a phenomenal storyteller—a woman who insisted on reclaiming her agency, to shine in bleak circumstances.

Tara Schuster

Mostly self-help with a lot of autobiographical bits to illustrate her journey, the basis of Schuster's healing was journalling: for the six years prior to writing this book, she made a ritual out of writing three single-spaced pages in her journal at the beginning of every day; with intention, examining her thoughts and feelings and repeating concerns, and eventually adding a daily unique list of ten things she's grateful for. Part of it could be defined as a memoir as she takes you through some of her own experiences and, most importantly, what she learned from them. Writing a book isn’t a personal goal of mine but this “book” shows me that anyone can publish a “book” , even if they don’t bother much with the writing part. This is the audiobook Tara wished someone had given her, and it is the audiobook many of us desperately need: a candid, hysterical, addictive, practical guide to growing up (no matter where you are in life) and learning to love yourself in a non-throw-up-in-your-mouth-it’s-so-cheesy way. It certainly didn't mean that I had worked out all of my issues from childhood and now everything was “perf, thanks, byeee .Today, Tara Schuster is a happy and fulfilled “self-care ninja”, and as Comedy Central's Vice President of Talent and Development, is by all outward appearances (and by her own account) living a healthy and successful life.

In Glow in the F*cking Dark, Tara Schuster guides us along as she finds her way through her own pain and offers honest, often funny, and actionable advice for taking charge of your emotional health.As previously noted, you can't trust someone who idolizes Coco Chanel, but the biggest problem here is that this is self-help from a person who 1.

There's a definite "things don't have to be as hard for you as they were for me" kind of sentiment to the book that makes it incredibly relatable and approachable. Listen, I'm on Twitter too and use "af" in plenty of text messages but that stuff DOES NOT BELONG IN A BOOK. The author probably had little to do with this next part, but the "swear words in the title" trend needs to end. It’s authentic without being preachy, and while I listened to it, I’m also so glad to have a hard copy so I can underline. What I admire about this book over other self-help bestsellers I won’t name is that Schuster is not ignoring the validity of mental illness as an obstacle.

Instead of remaining on a self destructive path she took on the challenge of figuring out how to get the skills she needed to change and grow. Her self-help tips aren't anything new or revolutionary, and a lot of her experiences (especially interactions with friends that led to her "growth") come off as weirdly dramatized for the sake of making a point.