Don't Overthink It: Make Easier Decisions, Stop Second-Guessing, and Bring More Joy to Your Life

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So what's the point of all these? You yourself realized that you can't have mental peace among all the negativities and toxicities you are surrounded with, so you kind of ran away from your problems, from your home, from your society. While we may have gut feelings about situations, these are often systematically learned through subconsciously seeking out ways to confirm our own beliefs. We know that they will leave us, in the end, because everyone before has already left. So, when they do leave, for potentially irrelevant reasons, we confirm our fear. In the future, we then associate our dread and feelings of being unsafe with a "gut feeling", trusting our emotions and predictions over the seldom facts at hand. Seemingly innocuous events spiral into a cacophony of doubts and demons. Psychologist and anxiety expert, David Carbonell, has seen it all. Kaiser BN, Haroz EE, Kohrt BA, Bolton PA, Bass JK, Hinton DE. "Thinking too much": A systematic review of a common idiom of distress. Soc Sci Med. 2016;147:170-183. doi:10.1016/j.socscimed.2015.10.044 So, if you’re struggling to manage your thoughts, if you feel lost in a haze, devoid of concentration, this book will help you Reclaim Your Brain and it might just change your life.

Using wit and real-life experiments in her own quest to find love, Smith writes about the process of finding love and reveals hidden insights into our lives, how to stop overthinking in love, and uncover the fun in dating and romance. In one of the funniest and most insightful books on overthinking, The Overthinker’s Guide to Love offers a beautifully balanced story and hard-won lessons trimmed with data and science. Observe what happens when I say “now, just focus on what you are reading and whatever you do, don’t think about camels, red sand and pyramids and camels and so on." 'Conduct a counter-belief experiment by test driving the counter-belief – spend at least one minute living as though the counter- belief is true > Live the next sixty seconds believing you are adequately prepared for your presentation to see how that affects your anxiety. For her, the Merriam-Webster online dictionary's definition of overthinking is the most precise, when it comes to defining the issue. This is: 'To think too much about (something): to put too much time into thinking about or analysing (something) in a way that is more harmful than helpful.' Everything else in our life can be going well, but if there is ever an area of life that we tend to overthink, it’s love. As Shakespeare joked, “The course of true love never did run smooth,” and many of us cannot help but overthink the other party’s thoughts and responses. Although I usually appreciate the addition of supplementary material to just about any book, I felt that there were a bit too many kitschy illustrations included here for my tastes... Invert that belief to form a counter-belief > If you believe “I’m not prepared for this presentation,” the counter-belief is, “I am well prepared for this presentation.”

Slowly count down from five to one. As you count down, use each number as a cue to engage one of your five senses. Five – look at five objects in your environment. Four – hear four distinct sounds. Three – feel three sensations. Two – detect two smells. One – identify one taste. It can feel frustrating that some people seem to glide through life barely worrying at all, while others struggle to sleep for thoughts whirring. Sometimes, this creates tension in friendships or romantic relationships – when one person thinks that ‘it’ll be fine, chill out,’ the other feels that the former person doesn't care enough. Another detrimental flaw was the "real life stories" that were implemented throughout the whole book. There was a few I liked and felt were relate-able, but once a sentence started with "Take Jill for example," I could not help, but roll my eyes and try to prepare myself for an unrealistic circumstance. The stories were like something you would have read in school and to then be tested on. Given that no one can predict the future, we can see that this is not true. Releasing yourself from the belief that worry can keep you safe, or help you to be prepared for things that go wrong, can be liberating. 2. Your thoughts or beliefs are not facts Her studies, first in children and later in adults, exposed one of the most deceptively upsetting of these patterns: rumination, the natural instinct to dwell on the sources of problems rather than their possible solutions. Women were more prone to ruminate than men, the studies found, and in a landmark 1987 paper she argued that this difference accounted for the two-to-one ratio of depressed women to depressed men.Clarify the belief by asking yourself, “What must I believe about myself, others, or the future to justify my anxiety?” Now you are showering me with lectures that I can achieve ANYTHING, I can BE POSITIVE, I can have mental peace, I can do this I can do that. How on earth? We can't stop worrying, neither we can leave our families.

Along the way she published scores of studies and a popular textbook. In 2003 she became the editor of the Annual Review of Clinical Psychology, an influential journal. It pulls factual evidence on women's pay, women's rights etc. and states it as the cause for depression or overthinking. I could do that with anything, oh women eat porridge for breakfast, the porridge must be causing the overthinking.

For overthinkers, life can often feel like rush hour. One thought is interrupted by another until you are going around in turns and circles, struggling to get from point A to point B. These continuous thoughts may also come rapidly and be paired with anxiety, an intense, excessive, and persistent worry. A hyperactive imagination means I've had a predilection for all things post-apocalyptic since I can remember. But, from when so much of what makes up our lives were exposed as candy floss delicate, this tendency went into overdrive.