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Early studies [ 89, 90] highlighted that gay men seem to engage more frequently in erotic fantasies than heterosexuals, both during masturbation and partnered sexual activity. Gay men seem to be principally triggered by visual stimuli and oriented to body parts rather than real partners. An Italian study partially confirmed these premises, recognizing a central role to physical, emotional, and relational elements in the imagery [ 91]. Gay men reported more fantasies concerning exploratory (e.g., having an orgy), intimate (e.g., romantic scenes), and impersonal sexual activities (e.g., sex with strangers) than heterosexual men. No difference was found in paraphilic-related fantasies [ 92]. Peixoto M. Sexual satisfaction, solitary, and dyadic sexual desire in men according to sexual orientation. J Homosex. 2019;66(6):769–79. https://doi.org/10.1080/00918369.2018.1484231.

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Murray SH, Milhausen RR, Graham CA, Kuczynski L. A qualitative exploration of factors that affect sexual desire among men aged 30 to 65 in long-term relationships. J Sex Res. 2017;54(3):319–30. https://doi.org/10.1080/00224499.2016.1168352. O’Byrne P. Examining the intersection of desire, drugs and place among gay men. J Res Nurs. 2013;18(3):265–76. https://doi.org/10.1177/1744987111415040. Peixoto MM, Nobre P. Prevalence of sexual problems and associated distress among gay and heterosexual men. Sex Relatsh Ther. 2015;30(2):211–25. https://doi.org/10.1080/14681994.2014.986084. Botta D, Nimbi FM, Tripodi F, Silvaggi M, Simonelli C. Are role and gender related to sexual function and satisfaction in men and women practicing BDSM? J Sex Med. 2019;16(3):463–73. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jsxm.2019.01.001. You watched “The L Word,” “Below Her Mouth,” “Grey’s Anatomy,” or any other movie or TV episode that featured a lesbian relationship or non-man on non-man kiss or sex scene.A, Jurin T, Briken P. Is high sexual desire a facet of male hypersexuality? Results from an online study. J Sex Marital Ther. 2016;42(8):665–80. https://doi.org/10.1080/0092623X.2015.1113585. Berlin had a vibrant homosexual culture in the 1920s, and about 50 clubs catered to lesbians. Die Freundin ( The Girlfriend) magazine, published between 1924 and 1933, targeted lesbians. Garçonne (aka Frauenliebe ( Woman Love)) was aimed at lesbians and male transvestites. [92] These publications were controlled by men as owners, publishers, and writers. Around 1926, Selli Engler founded Die BIF – Blätter Idealer Frauenfreundschaften ( The BIF – Papers on Ideal Women Friendships), the first lesbian publication owned, published and written by women. In 1928, the lesbian bar and nightclub guide Berlins lesbische Frauen ( The Lesbians of Berlin) by Ruth Margarite Röllig [93] further popularized the German capital as a center of lesbian activity. Clubs varied between large establishments that became tourist attractions, to small neighborhood cafes where local women went to meet other women. The cabaret song " Das lila Lied" ("The Lavender Song") became an anthem to the lesbians of Berlin. Although it was sometimes tolerated, homosexuality was illegal in Germany and law enforcement used permitted gatherings as an opportunity to register the names of homosexuals for future reference. [94] Magnus Hirschfeld's Scientific-Humanitarian Committee, which promoted tolerance for homosexuals in Germany, welcomed lesbian participation, and a surge of lesbian-themed writing and political activism in the German feminist movement became evident. [95] Radclyffe Hall's image appeared in many newspapers discussing the content of The Well of Loneliness. During the 17th through 19th centuries, a woman expressing passionate love for another woman was fashionable, accepted, and encouraged. [68] These relationships were termed romantic friendships, Boston marriages, or "sentimental friends", and were common in the U.S., Europe, and especially in England. Documentation of these relationships is possible by a large volume of letters written between women. Whether the relationship included any genital component was not a matter for public discourse, but women could form strong and exclusive bonds with each other and still be considered virtuous, innocent, and chaste; a similar relationship with a man would have destroyed a woman's reputation. In fact, these relationships were promoted as alternatives to and practice for a woman's marriage to a man. [72] [d] However, you don’t need to identify as butch, femme, or by any other lesbian gender. You can, if you choose, identify simply as lesbian. Remember, it's also really vital that you keep your sex toys clean, too. After using them, either wash them with warm water and fragrance-free soap or with a sex toy cleaner. This reduce the risk of bacteria spreading and the risk of transmitting STIs. Lube

Welling LL, Singh K, Puts DA, Jones BC, Burriss RP. Self-reported sexual desire in homosexual men and women predicts preferences for sexually dimorphic facial cues. Arch Sex Behav. 2013;42(5):785–91. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-012-0059-8. van Rosmalen-Nooijens KAWL, Vergeer CM, Lagro-Janssen ALM. Bed death and other lesbian sexual problems unraveled: a qualitative study of the sexual health of lesbian women involved in a relationship. Women Health. 2008;48(3):339–62. https://doi.org/10.1080/03630240802463343. One of the few, a lesbian drama with riotous sex, complex and realistic historical reactions, and a happy ending Tipping the Velvet (BBC) Downey JI, Friedman RC. Internalized homophobia in lesbian relationships. J Am Acad Psychoanal. 1995;23(3):435–47. When engaging in fingering or fisting, Dr Bisbey recommends wearing gloves as this can reduce the risk of STI transmission. Finger cots can also be used for anal fingering and play. PregnancyEllis, Kate and Mike Kent: Disability and Popular Culture: Focusing Passion, Creating Community and Expressing Defiance. London: Routledge, 2016. Lacefield K, Negy C. Non-erotic cognitive distractions during sexual activity in sexual minority and heterosexual young adults. Arch Sex Behav. 2012;41(2):391–400. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-011-9792-7. Iasenza S. Queering the new view. Fem Psychol. 2008;18(4):537–45. https://doi.org/10.1177/0959353508095535.

Dawson SJ, Suschinsky KD, Lalumiere ML. Sexual fantasies and viewing times across the menstrual cycle: a diary study. Arch Sex Behav. 2012;41(1):173–83. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-012-9939-1.

Brown, Lucy. ‘Mind the Road: Lesbian Tragedies in Last Tango in Halifax and Call the Midwife’, The Apollonian 2 (2015): 49–57. Boysen GA, Fisher M, Dejesus M, Vogel DL, Madon S. The mental health stereotype about gay men: the relation between gay men's self-stereotype and stereotypes about heterosexual women and lesbians. J Soc Clin Psychol. 2011;30(4):329–60. https://doi.org/10.1521/jscp.2011.30.4.329. Hurlbert DF. Female sexuality: a comparative study between women in homosexual and heterosexual relationships. J Sex Marital Ther. 1993;19(4):315–27. Lemke R, Weber M. That man behind the curtain: investigating the sexual online dating behavior of men who have sex with men but hide their same-sex sexual attraction in offline surroundings. J Homosex. 2017;64(11):1561–82. https://doi.org/10.1080/00918369.2016.1249735.