Single On Purpose: Redefine Everything. Find Yourself First.

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Work. Love. Happy. Healthy. Success. How do you define these today? Is working meaningful for you? Or do you dread getting up each day? What about love? From everything you’ve learned and been through, what is important to you when it comes to love? Do you have new non-negotiables?Do you put weight on different things? Healthy? What is healthy to you today? What about success? Is it still measured by the numbers in your bank or does it mean something else?

After a painful divorce, “The Angry Therapist” John Kim realized he had never truly been on his own. He went on a journey to rebuild his relationship with himself, going from alone and disconnected to alone and fulfilled. Single doesn’t mean you’re weak. Single doesn’t mean you’re defective. Single doesn’t mean you’re incomplete. Single doesn’t mean you can’t build an amazing life. It’s okay to be single. On purpose. Whether you’ve embraced the advice in Single on Purpose or are just discovering Kim’s ideas, 31 Days of Single on Purpose can help you transform being single into a joyous, exciting period of personal growth filled with memories, deep work, play, forgiveness, and freedom. One of the sections of the book that spoke to me is the discussion about the need to love and understand your body. I struggle with this, but it’s so important. Knowing what makes your body thrive and communicating that to your partner when you have one is something learned in time for many and it’s something that will only add to your own self appreciation in the long run. I will not be with someone who doesn’t take care of themselves, ie. physical, emotional, spiritual, health

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Lindsay interviews Dalila Jusic-LaBerge, LMFT and founder of Be Here and Now Relationship Academy and Secure Love Creator Framework, who provides relationship coaching for high achieving women and overfunctioning love seekers who struggle because they often wind up in situationships with partners that want to “see where it’s going” instead of working towards committed relationships. Dalila shares some of her top advice for helping women embody the identity of a secure love creator, someone who embraces personal power in relationships, knowing that love is in them and that they can create healthy relationships as they choose. Whether you've embraced the advice in Single on Purpose or are just discovering Kim's ideas, 31 Days of Single on Purpose can help you transform being single into a joyous, exciting period of personal growth filled with memories, deep work, play, forgiveness, and freedom. Our safe tree also includes our tribe. It doesn’t matter if you’re an introvert or extrovert, the people you engage with will encourage you and sharpen you. Or bring you down and stunt your growth. It makes all the difference. I’ve tried life alone. I’ve surrounded myself with people who were negative and draining. It doesn’t work. And if one of those people is the person you’re sharing a bed with, there needs to be a real honest conversation. Or many. And if nothing changes, you need to be with someone else. Your potential and everything you can offer the world isn’t even about you. Kim has gone on to help thousands of clients find their own unique way to break free of expectations and finally live their truth. With Single on Purpose , Kim takes his signature no-BS “self-help in a shot glass” approach as he shares his own singlehood story and shows readers how to own their shit, break their patterns, and find a grounded sense of self.

Amy and Sean share a toolkit full of advice on dating after divorce, including mindfulness, self-awareness, and self-compassion, and they remind divorcees of what not to do, too.I started this book thinking that it was a celebration of being single and that it would talk about societal pressures to be in a relationship. I thought (and hoped) it would explore the joys of being on your own and how you can be a complete and happy person without being tied to someone else. I was wrong. Lindsay interviews Candace St. John, an epidemiologist and public health specialist with additional training in pediatric sleep and lactation support, who helps parents cut through the noise and use science in combination with their own intuition to inform their parenting decisions. In this episode we discuss a lot of the myths and truths around infant development and needs, including hot topics like sleep training, breastfeeding, responsive parenting, post-partum, early attachment, screen time, pregnancy and birth, trauma in early childhood and more! Well, that’s a lot to work on. I know. And it’s easier to read something than to actually implement it into action. But hopefully, it gives you some encouragement, sense of direction so you don’t feel like you’re swimming in the vast ocean. Again, I gave it 2 stars, not 1. I do think there is value in here for you if you've never done work on your relationship with yourself and or you have had issues in your relationships.

Was leaning toward a 5 but a personal pet peeve, I am not looking for music recommendations from a book. There is an entire chapter with an annotated playlist and then he said Broken Social Science instead of Scene and I was even more annoyed. To be fair I’m having a bad day. I have a friend named Dion. We’re working on a project together. There’s crazy sexual chemistry. Before you ask, no, he’s not good for me. I know this. But I can’t stop thinking about him. He had a "Daily Mantra" for each days lesson but mantras are usually made to be sayings that you repeat over and over again to have positive beliefs. I will not be with someone who does not champion my passions, my growth, my story and respect what I stand for Kim has gone on to help thousands of clients find their own unique way to break free of expectations and finally live their truth. With Single on Purpose, Kim takes his signature no-BS “self-help in a shot glass” approach as he shares his own singlehood story and shows readers how to own their shit, break their patterns, and find a grounded sense of self.John is buried in his laptop when he notices a woman in her early thirties standing in front of him. I will recommend this book to someone who just went through a breakup, has a hard time being single, has an unsatisfying relationship, or, wants to find purpose in life while being single. This was a good book that taught me that sometimes what we think is love can be just be familiarity. Lastly, the most important relationship in your life is yourself and when you have a good relationship with yourself everything else will fall into place. Read more

Sped through this one and thoroughly enjoyed listening on Audible. Also believe this is applicable for those already in relationships, like I am, or in any walk in life. Since I’m already a follower of John’s podcasts, it was comforting to hear him read through this self help book and enlightening to hear more nuggets of his personal journey & life lessons that he wove into this book. Very humanizing and enjoyed his vulnerability and openness. Few takeaways:

It’s actually the best time to build a better you. Because when you’re in a relationship, it’s easy to put someone else before you. It’s easy to forget about your needs, what you want, what you deserve, and who you want to be. There’s more to life than loving someone. But being single can feel like a death sentence. Why does being alone = being lonely And why do we stop working on ourselves when we’re in a relationship I’ve had hundreds of sessions just like this. Different stories, but all the same. It’s why I wrote this book. We don’t know how to be single. It’s a journey most do not embark on. I wasn't expecting to enjoy this motivational book as much as I did, but it caught my attention as I was processing books at the library, and it turned out to be a great read for me at this juncture of my life. The author's voice and tone was great throughout the book, with just the right amount of humor mixed with serious insight into developing a relationship with yourself - whether you're already in a relationship with another person, newly single, or have been single for awhile. As the author claims, it's not an anti-relationship book, but rather a pro-relationship (with yourself) book.