His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage

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You take every moment to shove it in our faces how men and women are different. Even if what you’re saying is partially “correct” the wording and CLEAR personal agenda are very distracting. It’s remarkable how little information you supplied in your descriptions of the differences. I understand it may be hard to fit in this uninspired, righteous, and very scientific article. It may have been easier to explain if you had used even an iota of data or tangible evidence. If you are familiar with the concept of the Love Bank, intimate conversation is a great way to make love bank deposits. Men need to understand this and develop intimate conversation skills. Vapid, Ignorant, reductive, misleading, sexist vibe, blatant sexism, poorly worded, authors personal crusade against women being different does nothing but distract the reader, generally lazy information, no proper data given, doesn’t explain the differences well, could have just talked about both men and women in each category and the article would be both more accurate and the same length. This book gets right to the heart of what makes marriages work—the feeling of love. In all my years as a marriage counselor, I’ve never counseled a couple in love who wanted a divorce. But I’ve counseled many divorcing couples with excellent communication and problem-solving skills who claim to care for each other. Don’t get me wrong—I’m very much in favor of improving communication and problem solving in marriage. And I’m certainly in favor of caring love. But unless communication and problem solving help trigger the feeling of romantic love, spouses feel cheated in their marriages and often want out. Romantic love is a litmus test that reveals the right way for couples to demonstrate their caring love for each other. If you’re in love, you are caring for each other the right way. If you’re not in love, you should learn the right way to show your care. This book will teach you where to put your greatest effort to create and sustain romantic love. Recreational companionship. She develops an interest in the recreational activities he likes most and tries to become proficient at them. If she finds she cannot enjoy them, she encourages him to consider other activities that they can do together. She becomes his favorite recreational companion, and he associates her with his most enjoyable moments of relaxation.

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You may be asking why these emotional needs are so important. Several of the marriage experts I admire refers to a concept Dr. Willard Harley, Jr. calls the Love Bank. Dr. Gottman calls a similar concept the Love Map. Dr. Gary Chapman calls it the Love Tank. Dr. John Gray and Mark Gungor refer to the concept in all of their works.

Learn how to reach agreement with your wife regarding the rules expected to follow and how to discipline. Otherwise the children learn to divide and makes a deal with one parent. Both mom and dad should consult in private and give an agreed-on answer.

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I sit and listen to these pathetic and bewildered men so motivated by their need for sex that their reasoning capacities have turned to mush. Ordinarily I would tend to admire these intelligent, successful, and otherwise responsible individuals. But their misdirected sex drive has them completely unraveled. While this sequence of events is an insane way to live, my counseling experience leads me to believe that more than half of all married couples go through the agony of unfaithfulness and affairs. I believe that most couples can easily prevent this tragedy. Prevention begins with an understanding of the differences between the sexuality of men and women. What’s the Difference? There are three important differences between men and women when it comes to sex. The first involves their sexual drive; the second, awareness of their sexuality; and the third, their primary reason to have sex. Sexual Drive Regarding the first difference, sexual drive, we all know that the average man has a much higher sex drive than the average woman. This is because the only known aphrodisiac, testosterone, flows in abundance through men while in much shorter supply in women. A woman can witness firsthand what an intense sex drive feels like by wearing a testosterone patch for a week to raise her level of the hormone to that of the average nineteen-year-old male. It’s an eye-opening experience for women, who usually don’t want to repeat it. While a man’s sex drive is not the only reason he has a need for sexual fulfillment, it’s the most important reason that it’s usually his Only important to men that their partner remain attractive? I do what I can to take care of myself and feel and look good, but it goes both ways. The first thing to understand is that a man’s needs are typically more physical. This means he’s primarily concerned with his well-being and wants what he thinks will make him happy. He may also place a high value on independence and self-sufficiency, which can make him frustrated or abandoned if these needs aren’t met. Her Needs In my coaching programs I continue this exercise and coach you how to tie these needs into your everyday life. The emotional needs covers the middle tier of the 13 Personal Needs. In addition to the emotional needs, you have love needs and human needs. When your partner stops meeting your needs in a way that hurts you, you develop a learned response to pain when you see your partner.

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The way to determine your emotional needs is to first read the descriptions above and make a list that you think are your 10 emotional needs, prioritized from 1 to 10. Now, imagine you could only have 1 of these needs. Take a look at number 1 and number 2. Make a mark next to the one that would help you feel more loved. Then look at number 2 and number 3. Make a mark next to the one that would help you feel most loved. Continue down the list for all 10. Make sure the last comparison is between number 10 and number 1, so that all 10 get an equal comparison. As you read about these 10 emotional needs, please be aware that at the end of this article, I will provide an exercise where you will select your top 5 emotional needs. Dr. Harley, Jr. has found that the top five emotional needs are the most important. Continuing to rank the remaining 5 do little to help a marriage. Absolutely! Notice the line also says…“when done properly.” It is also followed up with a warning of being abusive.

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throughout your life together. There’s more to being in love than making each other happy, however. You must also know how to avoid making each other unhappy. That’s why I’ve written a counterpart to this book, Love Busters: Protecting Your Marriage from Habits That Destroy Romantic Love. If you know how to make each other happy, but fail to avoid making each other unhappy, your skill and effort will be wasted. Spouses can learn to become each other’s source of greatest pleasure when they meet each other’s most important emotional needs. But they can also become each other’s source of unbearable pain when they don’t protect each other from instincts and habits that are common to all of us. I’ve also written a workbook that will help guide you through the chapters of His Needs, Her Needs and Love Busters. It will help you identify the skills you should learn, and then encourage you to practice them until they become habits. This companion book is Five Steps to Romantic Love: A Workbook for a Healthy Marriage for Readers of Love Busters and His Needs, Her Needs. I encourage you and your spouse to read these books together, complete the questionnaires, and answer the questions at the end of each chapter. You might even use two different-colored highlighters as you read, so each of you can let the other know what is most important to you. Keep these books in a place where you can refer to them regularly, because you should be reminded of the lessons they will teach you.Domestic support. She creates a home that offers him a refuge from the stresses of life. She manages the household responsibilities in a way that encourages him to spend time at home enjoying his family. It’s important to remember that no one person can meet everyone else’s needs in a relationship. That’s why it’s always important for both parties to communicate openly and honestly about what they need from the other person. This way, they can ensure that their relationship is fulfilling for both. What Are Her Needs In A Relationship?