When You're Ready, This Is How You Heal

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Staff writer covering wellness, relationships, and everything in between. Pete Davidson’s future ex-girlfriend, probably. Reluctant Capricorn. I definitely cried today. ✨ Founded in 2010, Thought Catalog is owned and operated by The Thought & Expression Company, Inc. For over a decade, we've been at the bleeding edge of media, pioneering an infrastructure for creatives to flourish both artistically and financially. The sheer impact of you becoming the person you know you were meant to be will have a ripple effect on everyone and everything around you. Nothing will ever be the same. If you cannot imagine how else you might leave a legacy, help others, or do something meaningful with your life, the most important place to start is within yourself. There is not just one version of you that exists. To some, you are the beauty standard. To others, you are easily overlooked. To some, you are a genius at your craft. To others, you are irrelevant. To some, you are an incredible friend. To others, you are a complete stranger. To some, you are a life partner. To others, you are not someone they’d even date. To some, you are a teacher. To others, you are a student. To some, you are a guide. To others, you are a beginner. To some, you are a shining light. To others, you reveal their darkness. The reality is that you exist in so many different forms and images and projections—and yet, the only one that is ever really going to matter is the way you see yourself. Allow this knowing to free you. Allow it to help you see that maybe there is more dimension, more contrast, more nuance, and more goodness within you than you have ever allowed your-self to believe. Brianna Wiest For the overthinkers:

It was always there. It was just buried under years and layers of identities and styles and beliefs and ideas that had adhered themselves to you like a shield. If we do not answer this call, it will continue to show up in our lives, often in similar patterns and feelings. We will continuously return to wondering: " How am I still here? or How did I get here again?" The answer is that the same wake-up call keeps coming in until our subconscious minds agree to embark on the journey of our own becoming. This is a process of fully restoring us into remembrance of the perfect, whole and complete truth of who we are. It is a life-long quest, because we must tend to the gardens of our minds on a daily basis. Like children, they cannot completely manage themselves. Our lives require a higher functioning, future-considering adult aspect of ourselves to come forth and sit in the driver’s seat.For the ones who face a fork in the road… There is only one path: the one that leads you to your truth. Table of Contents You have to start being kind to yourself. Kind in the way that you’re kind to a child, to someone or something so innocent and endlessly deserving of your affection and praise. Brianna Wiest For the people-pleasers: Your first and most crucial task is your commitment to your own becoming. It is from this garden that all else is harvested. Your first purpose is just to be here. To be weird and ordinary and exceptional. To think and feel and know and wonder. To build yourself into a person you are proud to be, even if nobody else is clapping. Brianna Wiest For the times you can’t let go:

So if you're ready to heal, transform, and reclaim your life, then "This Is How You Heal" is the book you've been waiting for.

The stories, you realize, are illogical. You’re overreacting. You’re convinced your world is imminently coming to an end and these “gut feelings,” the ones you’ve been implicitly told to trust for so long, are simply warning you to take cover. When we claim ownership over the unique destiny that is meant to be ours, the collective heals with us, because we are all pieces of the whole. Perfection will be impossible, as it is within the contrast that this world becomes what it is meant to be—a training ground for soul development. This is not about trying to take the world and make it what we think its most perfect iteration might be, but to finally do what we had intended all along: to awaken, to remember, to witness our own seeds of potential take root. Letting go is as effortless as an exhale. You do it all the time. There are thousands of things you’ve simply re-leased into the night, that ended the moment you fell asleep and your eyes opened again in the morning. There are so many thoughts, fears, beliefs, items, relationships, choices, decisions, feelings that you have simply let go. I hope you will recognize that release is part of your system, it’s not something you have to force yourself to do. It’s something you practice with the little things, so when the big things come, you’re ready. Brianna Wiest For the moments you feel the need to be perfect: