Taking Charge of Her Marriage: A FLR Tale of Spanking, Figging, and Pegging

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Last Fall, my interest in being paddled fell to zero overnight. Leukemia? Who knows. But it’s the reason I now post so few pictures of men being spanked. Second, most have the physical capacity to resist anything they truly don’t want. The ability to physically resist places a hard limit on the extent to which a disciplinary spanking session can be literally non-consensual, even if a husband wants it to feel that way in the moment. Basically, we’re consenting to her using her best judgment about the “why, when, and how” issues, particularly the “why.”

Now I want you to put your hands on my desk and bend over. Spread those feet apart.” Pants around his ankles he obeyed her. She reached between his legs and handled his balls and pressed his asshole. “You’re mine, to do with as I please. Do you understand that?” “Yes Mistress” he answered hoarsely.Hubby is the recognized Bar-B-Que King of our little group, although our friends kid him by saying his latest batch of ribs was almost perfect. And that with more practice, there’s no telling how succulent they might become. Our friends, out of their natural goodness, would do their part in consuming the practice runs. This kind of direct punishment is much more likely to affect the kinds of changes you want to see in your husband and is much more compassionate than the usual repertoir used by most wives. In most marriages a wife feels despair over certain of her husband habits or behaviors because she feels those behaviors have more power over her than she has over her husband. This depair leads her to “punish” her husband in indirect ways as I have mentioned. She pouts, she tries to ignore him, she rolls her eyes when he speaks, she gives him the silent treatment, she withholds her affection, she tells him he is not as good a husband as other men she knows, she may even threaten to leave him. The underlying dynamic here is that the only power the wife feels she has is the power to reject her husband. The ultimate weapon, then, is divorce.

She was open to it and we started down that road. What was interesting was how nervous I was before she was about to administer my first “real” spanking. Over the years I’d gotten MANY spankings before and had experienced many times what I call “The Rollercoaster of Emotions” that accompanies a spanking…but this was different. I was nervous to the point of almost being a little scared. Some grew up in very structured homes or had a strict but caring parent, and they miss something about that structured environment. Others of us grew up with parents who exercised little control and who set or enforced few rules, causing anxiety around having too much responsibility before we could really handle it. I had been indulging myself with a little pity party, but the prospect of a forthcoming hard spanking gave my mind something more immediate, more concrete, and much more unpleasant to think about. Men in a Female/male domestic discipline relationship who want something like “consensual non-consent,” however, aren’t pretending that there is literal non-consent.Rather, she was making it clear that even if I was riled up about something, and even if I might actually have a point, that didn’t relieve me of the obligation to raise it respectfully and give her a reasonable opportunity to respond. I use hand, crop or wooden spatula. Besides being a necessary discipline I do so enjoy it. There’s something about the feeling of power when spanking a naughty girly husband. 4 Clitty control and feminisation I am blessed with a good, teachable husband, and he has been especially good lately. I hope he keeps his act together tonight. Evelyn and Marge would love to see a repeat of the last time we hosted at our house. They may try to trip him up and precipitate another such scene. How open are you about the FLR aspect of your relationship? Do your friends and family know? If not, how do you think they would react? If so, how did they react? Many men in these relationships would say that while they don’t like giving in to authority, they see the benefits of doing so when it comes to their wives. And, they generally have a high degree of respect for her judgment.

Our friends had a charming view of your bright red bottom while you stood there. Marge and Evelyn seemed to enjoy the sight immensely. Strangely, I don’t think Sam or Bill so much as glanced in your direction through the entire thirty minutes. It is of course totally your decision whether to spank at all. Try to keep an open mind about it, and find out if it something you could learn to enjoy. Most women who spank find they enjoy the power, the intimacy, the joy of their partner's devotion, and the fun of the act itself. It is a wonderful way to release frustration, allow man to absorb some of your stress for you, and to settle relationship tension. Even if you do not enjoy it, for your good and that of your man, it is still highly recommended to enhance your chastity control and the strength of your FLR. Even limited to less regular maintenance spankings that you don't really enjoy, spanking is so beneficial you should still seriously consider it. Over time, you might find you enjoy it a lot more than you ever imagined you would. Consensual spanking is a fun, beneficial, and intimate activity for a woman to administer to her man, however it is absolutely essential that basic safety is observed. I have a friend who is the “top” in an FLR that involves just such a deep power exchange. She and her husband reached an impasse regarding a major issue involving a job change that would require a move out of the country. She listened to his position over and over again but eventually made the decision she genuinely believed was best for both of them. He wasn’t happy about it, and she had to remind him they’d agreed to exactly this hierarchy. The stories are true as are the spankings. These are consensual but very real domestic discipline spankings. “Consensual” for us, means that my husband has asked to be held accountable for his actions and misdeeds and has consented to receiving actual punishment spankings accordingly. There are no warm up swats, no rubbing his butt or long pauses between swats during the spanking. And the swats are coming hard and one right after another. It is a rough experience for him. I commend him on being brave and tough enough to take what I dish out. Because let me tell you…it is oftentimes very harsh.Sessions are “scenes.” The partners have assigned “roles” — “Domme” and “submissive” and such. More elaborate scenes are sometimes expressed in terms of “role play.” There may be “costumes” involved — leather, chains, corsets . . . that whole bit. The Johnsons and the Millers are neighbors in our age group—empty nesters with kids out building families of their own. Marge, Evelyn and I see, or at least talk to, each other almost every day, and the men frequently golf together when the weather allows. The six of us like to gather every week or two, especially in the summer when we can cook and eat outside.