The Definitive Book of Body Language: How to read others’ attitudes by their gestures

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There are many reasons why bother with body language. It can be used to communicate messages that cannot be verbalized, such as when a person is feeling uncomfortable or threatened. It can also be used to create or reinforce social bonds, such as when two people share a smile or handshake. Additionally, it can be used to express emotions, such as happiness, sadness, or anger. Analysis of Gestures: Pease goes in-depth into analyzing gestures and provides insights into the different types of gestures, including adaptors, emblems, illustrators, and regulators. He explains how each type of gesture can provide clues about a person’s emotions and intentions.

How to Use it: When gesturing with your hands, make sure your hands are open most of the time and that people can see your open palms. It is also a good idea to keep the palms facing upward most of the time rather than facing downward. Leaning in Bowden’s advice centres on acting (and looking) more confident rather than learning to read body language in others. As such, it works well as an accompaniment to other books on this list because you’ll use it more for your own actions. You can also avoid mirroring someone entirely if you’re disinterested in them or want to create boundaries. If you’re talking to a buddy in a front-to-front situation, and you see him blade all of a sudden, he might be feeling a bit defensive or threatened.

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The Duchenne smile is a smile that signals true happiness and is characterized by the “crow’s feet” wrinkles around the corners of the eyes along with upturned corners of the mouth. Blinking is natural, but you should also pay attention to whether a person is blinking too much or too little. Contradiction: It can contradict the message you're trying to convey, thus indicating to your listener that you may not be telling the truth.

Foley GN, Gentile JP. Nonverbal communication in psychotherapy. Psychiatry (Edgmont). 2010;7(6):38-44. While verbal communication is considered the most efficient method of communication. It has several ambiguities and words can be deceiving. There are but a few people who can actively control their body language while lying or trying to deceive, and if you really know how to read a person’s body language, you can get the idea of what their true intentions are. Women’s minds work in strange ways. Their thinking process is a lot different from us, and it is hard to learn about their intentions for most men. Most of the men keep wondering all their lives about what their women actually wanted from them and ignore the clear signs looking right in their eyes. This is a great book on body language. It covers both how to read cues and how to adjust your own body language. It contains a LOT of illustrations which helps tremendously.

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Pacifying behaviors consist of a wide range of self-soothing behaviors that serve to calm us down after experiencing something unpleasant. This can be seen with fidgeting, bouncing feet, and arm rubbing. As a general rule of thumb, any repetitive behavior is likely pacifying. Haptics Joe Navarro is something of an expert in the world of body language. As an ex-FBI officer, his career was based on seeing these signals in people. Accurately read other people, including the emotions they're feeling and the unspoken messages they're sending. Body language can be broken down into 2 major categories—positive or open body language and negative or closed body language.

While the key to success in both personal and professional relationships lies in your ability to communicate well, it’s not the words that you use but your nonverbal cues or “body language” that speak the loudest. Body language is the use of physical behavior, expressions, and mannerisms to communicate nonverbally, often done instinctively rather than consciously. They have found that the use of body language and the capability to decipher it significantly contributes to our success. In some instances, what comes out of your mouth and what you communicate through your body language may be two totally different things. If you say one thing, but your body language says something else, your listener will likely feel that you’re being dishonest. If you say “yes” while shaking your head no, for example. When faced with such mixed signals, the listener has to choose whether to believe your verbal or nonverbal message. Since body language is a natural, unconscious language that broadcasts your true feelings and intentions, they’ll likely choose the nonverbal message.From what I have learned from reading many non-fiction books over the years, most will cover the same ideas. Body language is pretty much the same with different names or spins on subject topics. How to Use It: Having a hard day at work? Try closing your eyes in a safe space and gently rubbing your eyelids while taking a breath. I’ve found just 30 seconds of this helps immensely and gives a sense of calm during a stressful day. Fidgeting with Objects Importantly, you can apply the findings to both yourself and others. Not only will you read signals in people, but you’ll also be able to apply them to your own actions. It includes illustrations to really hit the points home. The eyebrow flash can show interest professionally, as when giving approval, agreeing to something, thanking someone, or seeking confirmation. It’s used as a nonverbal “yes” during conversation.