The Power of Letting Go: How to drop everything that's holding you back

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Going your separate ways does not have to be an experience filled with anger or judgment. When you recognize that the person is preventing you from growing or achieving your dreams, you can forgive them and also forgive yourself for any pain the separation may cause and wish them the best for the future. Remind yourself that to create space for a new, healthy relationship, you must learn how to let go of the old one. Practicing forgiveness is a chance to grow and live in the mystery of what’s next. 6. Master your emotions Holding on is a natural human instinct – and it’s also a critical way that we stop ourselves from reaching our goals. Because ultimately, not letting go of someone you love can harm you: i t prevents you from achieving your true potential. Why is letting go so hard?

we can divide desires into 3 categories :those come from ego, borrowed desires( part of our social and cultural conditioning), those arise naturally.The author then dedicates a portion of his book to all the negative feelings that we are bottling up and that we should instead let go of. us being only consciousness. no we are not. just as we are not only mind and body. this things work in a triad - taking away at least one of this elements, we cannot be considered as humans at all. person can go all consciousness and mind, but what will happen to the body? or if one neglects consciousness, all the work with mind and body will be useless. and in neglecting mind - ultimately, what that person will be good for? nothing. balance between everything is a key, you cannot just throw away one element and expect everything will be all right. As Tony says, “When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears.” That’s why practicing gratitude is the antidote to the sadness and anxiety you feel when you’re learning how to let go of someone . Let go of your expectations and focus on gratitude for what you once shared. This small shift in your perspective will help you realize that life happens for you , not to you. When you’re able to find the lesson in every experience and be grateful for it, you’ll reduce the anger you feel toward the other person and instead appreciate what you gained from the relationship. 9. Talk to someone you trust All these reasons why it can't happen are incompletions /pain patterns. Do the completion exercise, identity the incident when each pain pattern started. What happened? Write it down. Relive each incident at least 5 times. Allow everything that makes you powerless to come to the surface and leave your system.

I shouldn't fight against the huge waves, as they would always be stronger than me and push me under. I should just collaborate with them. Breaking up with a partner or refusing to speak to a family member aren’t the same thing as letting go. You can still feel love, resentment and hostility that affect your decisions – you may feel all three. That means you’re letting them call the shots instead of controlling your own life. And that never leads to happiness and fulfillment . Let go of your expectations. When you have expectations, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Instead, focus on the present moment and what you can control.

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Purkiss oversimplifies things dramatically. I think this is a great book for people who have been through therapy, namely CBT, and already have an idea of "how to let go," but in my opinion Purkiss expects a lot out of his readers and their ability to therapize themselves.

A great contribution to the field of human helpfulness."--Norman Vincent Peale, author of The Power of Positive Thinking surrender isn't the same as giving up or doing nothing. It just means that we stop trying to make the world conform to our fixed ideas about how things should be.

When a relationship ends, it’s common to feel incredible amounts of anger and resentment – especially if you were not the one who decided to end it. Maybe at first you felt righteous about it, like the anger was helping you move forward. However, after some time has passed, you start to see that it’s unhealthy for you, and you’re not sure how to let go of someone you love and move on with your life.