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Because it’s circumstantial – as in, the depression has set in because they don’t have a job – they might just need that extra boost to turn their jobhunt into a success. He’s 7yo and it’s the first time I’ve ever been absolutely furious with him. I’ve just split up from Dh and with that and the stress of trying to keep my elderly parents safe and well I’m just done in and exhausted emotionally and physically. Obviously when a parent loses their job, they’re the one who has to cope. It’s not, as it always has been, about you this time, so you’re going to have to step up and be an adult for once, all right? It was one of my worst parenting moments, but it taught me a very specific lesson – I simply can’t do it all.

I can't say anything to anyone IRL as my family aren't the sort to ever say something's bothering them and none of my friends have kids. Although it’s a fine line, a toxic relationship isn’t always synonymous with emotional abuse, which can also come out in the words your mom uses. "A toxic relationship is a dynamic between two or more people where emotional needs generally go unmet because of issues that have nothing to do with the other person," Danielle Forshee, Psy.D, L.C.S.W., tells Bustle. While toxicity can be tough to spot, it often comes down to how another person makes you feel. “The word ‘toxic’ in terms of a relationship means that one person’s behavior leads to serious negative emotional consequences for the other person,” says Elliot Pinsly, LMSW, a licensed clinical social worker. Whether it’s intentional or subconscious, “a toxic person tends to be controlling, demanding, manipulative, demeaning, and/or self-centered,” he says. And it can leave you feeling down, or as if your self-esteem has taken a hit.

I work PT, when she's at nursery she's apparently 'the most independent, well behaved child' when she's with her dad she's 'so easy and just occupies herself' when we're with anyone else she's great, it's just when we're alone just us that she turns into a screaming demanding monster that not even CBeebies can help her to be quiet for 5 mins. She has a bedtime routine. Same as her sister and has been the same for years. She goes to bed about 7.45-8pm and is allowed to read as long as she likes (if I go in and take her book off her, she just gets up. I figure it’s better that she’s in bed reading at 10pm than wandering about…). When she's good go overboard saying how good she is and how you are noticing her brilliant behaviour.

Especially if they’re alone. But even if they’ve got a great relationship with your other parent/loads of mates, it’s important to ring them three times more than you would normally. Because they might want to rant, they might want to talk it through, and they probably feel incredibly shit so having the human they birthed chatting to them will automatically make them feel better. Made from sterling silver, they are delicate with intricate detail and measure about 1cm across the wings. They come in a fabric pouch inside a posh gift box and would make a great mother’s day present for someone with pierced ears. You kids are driving me to drink!” she bellowed, moaning as if in physical pain. Then she marched through the garage with a purpose I had never seen before. We kids scattered like mice. If your parents live together, still call them because there’s only so much ‘I’m sad because I have no job any more’ you can say to the person you live with until they get irritated. It feels good to rant at a fresh ear. Be a fresh ear.As someone who was unemployed for a year, I can attest to the fact that this is the most annoying thing ever. Mainly because it implies you’re not job hunting well enough (an unemployed-against-their-will-person’s confidence is usually pretty low) and also they’re always invariably unsuitable because only you can tell the jobs that you want to apply for. My sister and I weren’t exactly princesses to my dad [Bernie Ecclestone, businessman and former chief executive of Formula One], but he was soft. If my mum was screaming about something, we would always look to Dad to calm her down. Whenever I have needed him – any bad breakup, any advice, anything – he has always been there. A lot of people think of him as completely emotionless, but he’s not like that. Having children has made my sister, Petra, and me even closer. Her daughter is a year older than Sophia, so it’s nice to have that person to just say: “Is this normal?” I also have a 62-year-old half-sister called Deborah from Dad’s first marriage but I don’t know her at all. I don’t have anything against her, but our paths have never crossed. Man vs Toddlerexposes the lie that, that when it comes to parenting ‘it gets easier’. But it is just as foul-mouthed and heart-warming as Matt’s first book, and will have you laughing and crying with recognition as he shares his observations and advice on everything from tantrums to the horrors of soft-play.

Wine and chocolate is a classic when it comes to Mother’s Day presents, and for a reason. This luxury personalised gift hamper from Farrar and Tanner contains a bottle of very decent Calvet Chateauneuf-du-Pape, a jar of exceedingly moreish chocolate almonds and some gorgeous stem ginger. You scream at your kids. They run for the hills as your swirling tornado of emotion overcomes their physical space. Try and stay calm. She is a child and you do not have to argue with her. Remember it takes 2 to argue. Just refuse to engage. Regardless of what happens, though, there are ways you can make everything a whole lot nicer. I spoke to a bunch of girls whose parents have either been made redundant, or lost their job, to see how they coped and what they did to make their parent’s lives at that point a little less shitter... Sometimes toxic comments go beyond words. If your mom lets out a long sigh or a guttural noise when you try to talk to her, Pinsly says it could be her way of showing that “you’ve let her down.” If it happens regularly, it can start to feel toxic, especially if your mom does it as a way to make you give in and meet her needs.

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I used to say I love you very much but I am not happy with your behaviour, it is not acceptable and I am not doing x,y,z with you until you can behave better.

I tried not to laugh, but I did. My oldest chimed in with, “Yeah buddy, it’s gone. Mom went crazy on that penguin.” The kids took one look at me and were off like a bat out of hell and ran for their rooms. I followed, screaming hysterically about their constant fighting, and continued my rant for about five more minutes. Nothing in my path was safe. I slammed chairs, threw toys, clothing, and shoes.

My idle threat fell on deaf ears as I continued home with the miniature tyrants screaming that they wanted to swim. I tried to text my husband to calm me down but he was in a meeting and couldn’t respond. I was 23 or 24 when my parents divorced and it was awful. I think the older you are, the worse it is, because you have had all those Christmases and birthdays together and all those amazing memories. Maybe the younger you are, the more oblivious you are and you just get used to how things are. Suddenly, I felt so guilty about who I should see for Christmas. I felt totally torn. If they’ve lost interest in doing stuff they love, are constantly down, aren’t looking after themselves like they used to, then they might benefit from talking to someone. Although it’s nigh-on impossible to get a depressed person to see a doctor, it might be worth suggesting it. When I was pregnant I used to put DS behind a baby gate for 2 hours "quiet time" every afternoon just to get through the day! I called my boss that evening and asked her for a week off so that I could properly do my most vital job, be a Mom.