The Art of Reading Minds: How to Understand and Influence Others Without Them Noticing

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Listen to The Upgrade above or find us in all the usual places where podcasts are served, including Apple Podcasts, Google Play, Spotify, iHeartRadio, Stitcher, and NPR One. Highlights from this week’s episode From the Henrik Fexeus interview: Other than that, try minimising distractions. One study in 2009 found that we’re exposed to approximately 100,000 words each day from all the media and information we consume. By comparison, that’s about the same length as one-quarter of War and Peace by Leo Tolstoy. It’s a constant stream of disturbances that impede our ability to think and limit our desire to read well. Chapter six discusses the ethics and morality of this topic. The active exploitation of nonverbal communication can bear the stink of being manipulative, and that necessitates consideration of how such activities can blow up in one’s face. Book Genre: Business, Communication, European Literature, Language, Leadership, Nonfiction, Personal Development, Psychology, Relationships, Science, Self Help, Swedish Literature Imagine being able to tell if someone is genuinely interested in your conversation during a business meeting or deciphering the emotions of a loved one during a difficult conversation. Fexeus offers practical exercises and real-world scenarios that help readers put their newfound skills into practice.

By embarking on this journey of self-discovery, readers can not only enhance their interpersonal skills but also develop a profound sense of empathy and emotional intelligence. Honestly, it doesn’t require many skills to be able to read minds. The main skills needed are the drive to take you all the way and the vulnerability and willingness to trust your intuition.The internationally bestselling guide to "mind-reading" by influencing those around you via non-verbal communication, from human psychology expert Henrik Fexeus. As noted above, yoga or meditation are great ways to practice this at first. It’s crucial to be consistent with your practice and be left alone during these moments for maximum concentration. 2. Choosing Someone To Mind Read But it doesn’t stop there. Not only are all our thoughts reflected in our bodies; the reverse is true as well. Whatever happens to our bodies affects our mental processes. You can easily test this yourself. Try the following: To develop a complete mind: Study the science of art; Study the art of science. Learn how to see. Realise that everything connects to everything else” – Da Vinci The Reading Objective Many brilliant authors talk about books as having a rather loose objective of success, happiness, and personal fulfilment. Roald Dahl, for instance, said that “if you are going to get anywhere in life, you have to read a lot of books”. And J. K. Rowling once said that “something very magical can happen when you read a good book”.

Fexeus provides readers with a toolkit of techniques that allows them to decipher hidden meanings in everyday interactions. From decoding microexpressions – those fleeting, involuntary facial expressions that betray our true feelings – to understanding the significance of posture and gesture, the book is filled with practical advice that can be applied immediately.Similarly, if you begin reading a book and you aren’t enjoying it, then there’s no obligation to continue. Just stop. We don’t need to finish a book just because we started it. Otherwise we’d be committing to a classic sunk cost fallacy, investing further time into a book simply because we’ve spent valuable time on it already.

If he really loves me, he should have known I didn’t want to go to that party, even though I agreed to go!” It might seem odd to have a blog post devoted entirely to reading more effectively. After all, if you’re reading this, chances are you can read. But reading effectively and efficiently is its own skill – one that we’re never really taught how to do. Chapter seven is about “lie detection” and the truth and myth of this topic. One thing I liked about this book is that the author is quite forthcoming about the limited support for some of the ideas that are conveyed, as well as the limitations of what these tools can do for one. Many authors of this type of work suggest that these tactics are iron-clad science, which isn’t the case. The most controversial of these approaches is NLP. Neuro-Linguistic Programming has an extremely stalwart following among many people ranging from salespeople to therapists. However, NLP has not fared well when subjected to scientific investigation. NLP supporters suggest this is because investigators are fighting a straw man by considering oversimplified claims that were never made by Bandler and Grinder (the NLP founders.) As an example, NLP claims that a person will tend to look one direction when remembering and another when imagining. Some within the NLP suggest this is the basis of lie detection (if a respondent looks as though they are imagining versus recalling, they must be involved in a fabrication.) We largely uncover the answer to this question during the systematic skimming and superficial reading within level 2. The main difference is that, in the holistic stage of level 3, we’re tasked with identifying the questions the author is asking and trying to solve. Put another way, what was it the author was trying to answer by writing this book?

The final level of reading is about our understanding of a subject more generally. Whereas analytical reading focuses on our comprehension of a specific book, syntopical reading helps shape our opinion and increase our overall fluency of the wider topic through understanding how different books relate to one another. This may sound a little abstract, but bear with me.