Not My Problem

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This phrase shows good leadership skills. It’s also very polite, as it shows you will not interfere with other people’s problems. When I was younger I would say, “ it’s not my problem” to my little sister. All the time. I believed that the things that she needed to take care of were her problems. And the things that I needed to take care of were my problem. Also, Ms Devlin!! Her dry humour and the way she interacted with Aideen was really wholesome to me. She really reminded me of Sister Michael from Derry Girls, except maybe slightly younger and also not a nun? Either way, one of my fave YA teachers. Then there's side characters like Orla and Angela . . . all of the characters in this book were excellent and unique and brought something to the story. You get where I'm going - I'm just super fond of the cast here, down to the supporting characters. idk tbh i just thought this book was kinda wild LOL. a lot of things happened that i did not expect and honestly just didn't feel realistic slkdjfslk

I was looking for something a la She Drives Me Crazy, but I didn't get it here. If you're between Not My Problem and She Drives Me Crazy, I definitely recommend the latter. Are you trying to say “that’s not my problem” in a polite way? Well, that can be quite difficult. After all, the phrase isn’t necessarily polite in the first place. Characters: The characters are a major success and the more reasons for you to love this book. Aideen is entertaining, compassionate and overall just loveable. Her character is raw and I teared up for the emotional authenticity that runs throughout the novel. I don't think I am similar to Aideen (I'm more assertive) but I find her personality to be very relatable. I truly loved how well layered and fleshed out the characters were. The book follows its main character Aideen. Aideen is sharp, sympathetic, loyal to a fault and funny as hell. Plus she's great at texting and PE(Meabh and Ms. Delvin can attest). There wasn't a dull moment in the book thanks to her and her layered personality. She uses sarcasm as a coping mechanism. When the story begins, she only has two people, her mom and her best friend, Holly. Both, damaging her self worth in different ways and her, always making excuses for them. By the end she goes through incredible character development and finally decides to work on 'her own problems' and has the most endearing group of friends. I love Kelly Quindlen’s She Drives Me Crazy and I haven’t read it yet but I am very much looking forward to Dahlia Adler’s Cool for the Summer.

1. I’m Afraid This Does Not Affect Me

I don’t want to get involved” is a simple phrase that shows you are not interested in someone else’s fight. I would love to help, but have a lot on my plate at the moment. Can I help you with it for a few hours next Tuesday?” The slow burn rivals-to-lovers romance was everything and the chemistry was f-a-b. The friendship dynamics, both old and new, were wonderfully explored. The characters were all fully fleshed out and engaging in their own right and the multiple strains of character development were a+. As an author of LGBTQ+ fiction, did you ever face challenges or feel discouraged on your journey to publication? On the flip side, has there been anything really rewarding? It is rude to say “that’s not my problem.” It’s a very dismissive statement showing you do not care about someone or their problem.

Aideen: I rooted for Aideen all the way through. I rooted for her to find her own voice. For her to finally trust someone. For her to let someone into her life. For her to stand up for herself and chose to make herself happy for once. Her arc throughout this story was inspirational, heartwarming and amazing. like The Falling in Love Montage this was also funny af and had me laughing out loud several times. there was also humour and levity in serious situations but it also managed to stay serious when the situation called for it.The new friend Kavi on the other hand was exactly the sweet and kind friend Aideen needed. I loved him. He was hilarious. It’s quite professional and polite, allowing you to appear in a positive way without insulting someone. When the blurb for Not My Problem was first shared, I was immediately drawn to the premise, which featured the hate to love trope – something I adore. When I sat down to read the book, I absolutely loved it! It’s charming and funny and absolutely wonderful (if you love the TV series Derry Girls, then you’ll love Not My Problem). I’m so excited Ciara was able to stop by beyond a bookshelf (as part of Pride Book Tours’ tour for the novel) to discuss her writing and LGBTQ+ books she’s enjoyed lately.

From the blurb, I kind of expected to have this book centered on romance. Except, I think this revolved more about Aideen's problems, social life, and friendship, which made it actually better.

When it comes to your personal and professional responsibilities, not everything is only your problem. Remember that your personal responsibilities can be shared by those around you. You can assist others, and they can assist you. By collaborating, you can create positive working relationships that benefit the team. That being said overburdening yourself with the responsibilities of others can also have a negative effect. The newly formed friendship between Ravi, Meabh, and Aideen was amazing, I learned so many cute lessons from them! Ravi was an icon, I liked his talkative, energetic, and supportive characteristics. I adored Meabh as well, she was compassionate and a bit relatable. Oh, and it's about friendships too – the old and new ones. Aideen's childhood friend Holly is horrible, but I like that they included her. It was a great example of how messy friendships can be, and how you can love someone and still hate them at the same time. In high school, I had a great friend who was experiencing significant mental illness. She was committing self-harm and attempting suicide monthly. As a teenager, she relied on me to be there for her. I stopped sleeping, eating, and taking care of myself so that I could support her at any moment. I was pulled into a very stressful cycle that I didn’t know how to get out of.