Male Chastity: A Guide for Keyholders

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Piercing Variants A variant of the tube-type chastity devices relies on the man’s penis being pierced; such devices are designed (or supplied with special-purpose accessories) to lock to the piercing. We’ve seen that the subject of male chastity is more likely to be brought up by the man; if this is the case then it can be hard for his lover to understand why he would desire something so seemingly perverse. He can go through life silent and ashamed, keeping his submissive nature secret and never sharing this important aspect of his sexuality with his lover. There’s no way you’ll ever keep him from fantasizing (not that you should even want to) but you can be sure of one thing: if you lock up his penis and hold his key, all future auditions for parts in his fantasy life will be canceled. Opting for an adjustable handcuff instead of a plain ring has some clear advantages: it’s easy to get on, and there’s no need to take an accurate measurement because the cuff can be adjusted to whatever diameter your man needs.

It’s essential that such a device is fitted correctly, so that the weight is distributed as intended by the device’s designer. This is essentially a dildo that attaches to the man’s chastity device, to enable a form of love-making that mirrors intercourse while eliminating any risk of a premature finish. If you are present, you can simply unlock him – but there will inevitable be times when one or the other of you is away from home. Another answer comes from the ideas of philosophers like JeanPaul Sartre, who taught us the value of embracing desire without necessarily acting on it. In other words, when the woman he wants is right there to tantalize and tease him, nut instead of surrendering to his desires, she denies him and strings him along.

When he does, let him see how much you enjoy it; let him appreciate the effect that his attentions, and the situation, are having on you. Exercise Two: Chastity Diary The second exercise requires your man to keep a diary during his periods of voluntary chastity, recording how aroused and frustrated he felt from day to day.

I would recommend them for anyone who is reluctant to discuss the idea with their significant other. Tube-type devices fasten directly to the man’s genitals, generally being secured by means of a ring that sits next to his lower abdomen, encircling his penis and scrotum. If these stories are true (and many must surely be no more than the fantastical products of male wishful thinking) then the individuals concerned may live to regret it. For example, monks, priests, and various other holy men practice male chastity (or at least they’re supposed to), generally in the service of their god.You will certainly experience a profound shift in the power and pleasure dynamic of your sexual relationship. Within a heterosexual relationship, the term refers to the case where the man refrains from any kind of sexual gratification unless granted permission by his wife or girlfriend. It's well written and is there for the female keyholder who is new to the world of chastity or has already some experience but could use some background, tips and understanding of how her submissive husband/friend is wired.

Steel devices will certainly trigger airport security systems, so plastic (including plastic locks) may be a better choice if your man does much traveling by air. Such a change is no more than an increase in the level of what was already there (if you and your man felt no desire for one another, you’d hardly be experimenting with kinky sex toys, would? Meanwhile, back in your world, there’s a chance he might try to foist some highly specific fantasies onto you. If he thinks he wants to be kept in chastity but can’t manage this, then you have to question how he’s going to cope with actually being locked up.

Before You Begin Well-made chastity devices don’t come cheap – you won’t get away with less than several hundred dollars at the top end of the market.

If you are uncertain of how to use a chastity device (or anything else) safely, refrain from using it until you have clarified your questions and concerns with the supplier or manufacturer. I think she said in one of her older posts that she was combining the ideas in the blogs for her first book. You will have plenty of opportunities to confirm this for yourself as you gradually learn to harness (and fulfill) his sex drive in the service of your own. A man in the latter kind of relationship can still enjoy a game of golf or a drink with his buddies, but those other activities will be strictly out of his hands – and he won’t be interested in pursuing them anyway, because the erotic stimulation he craves is right there at home, with his chosen partner.If you feel he’s been taking you for granted; if your lives together are no longer as romantic or passionate as they once were – well, things can be different from now on. It should go without saying that you don’t need to permit intercourse at all unless you wish for it.