10 x "Submissive" Tattoo lettering in black - Sexy Kinky BDM Tattoo (10)

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Gifts- Gifts do not have to be extravagant. They can be small. For example, maybe the submissive likes chocolate, coffee mugs, or makeup. You can get her one of these items and present it to her when she does as you ask or complies with a rule that has been difficult for her to follow in the past. Here is a useful link to explain what the symbol looks like and what it is and is not. emblemproject.sagcs.net/is.htm BDSM contracts are a pretty important part of the relationship. Both parties need to bring something to the relationship to make their counterpart the best version of themselves. The contract outlines what the Dominant/submissive will be responsible for. They are meant to protect both people from hurt feelings and unrealistic expectations. They can include anything you want, really. And they can and should include any rules and consequences for rule breaking. These can be verbal or written out, but the most important part of the contract is communication. This is something that is ongoing throughout the duration of the relationship. Discipline

Be careful about fake Doms. Some Doms aren’t in it for the power play, just the power. This need for power and control can become abuse in all forms. There is a difference. Punishments are necessary to ensure that rules are followed, and boundaries respected. The Dominant shouldn’t take pleasure in punishments when it is for legitimate rule breaking. Funishment (bratty behavior or rule breaking during play) is very different. If you feel that you are being abused, you should try and get out of the relationship.Like I said earlier, discipline and punishment are two totally different things, but they are related. A good Dom will help teach the submissive how to push their limits. They are training the sub to be the best sub that they can be for them. Again, totally subjective - everyone views ownership differently. On a most basic level, ownership is about belonging to/with someone. The terms of this and how this looks for you and your Dominant are entirely up to you to decide.

Though, there are other things that can be done, if a collar is not appropriate. Perhaps you might want to wear other jewelry, such as an 'o' ring or some sort of anklet or bracelet. There are many items of jewelry out there that are innocent enough unless you're 'in the know'. One jeweler, I like in particular is Understanding the why behind the rules helps absolve the Dominant from feeling guilty from following through with the agreed upon consequence for breaking the rule. It would be nice if it's somewhat subtle since it might be on a visible place and it'd be fun to keep people guessing if it's an actual symbol or just "pretty". A “submissive” is someone who willingly gives up control during BDSM play to their Dominant partner. A sub can be referred to as a slut, slave, bottom, little girl, etc. When it comes to ownership, the words “slave” or “property” are commonly used. The Dominant wants respect and devotion. The submissive must trust the boundaries and rules that are put into place. As a submissive, I rely on my Dom to guide me, lead me, and in return he gets my devotion. PunishmentsTouching Restrictions- The submissive is not allowed to touch or be touched by the Dominant. If the submissive shows their affection through touch, this can be especially difficult. For those who like ink and are definitely 100% sure about the commitment to their partner, tattoos are an option. There is one particular ownership tattoo for submissives that I’ve seen a lot, it’s it’s a simple circle that says “owned by a master” (see here). Some people choose to get names written on them ( like this) and others prefer something a bit more simplistic and subtle, like this cute one. Some individuals are even open to being branded by their Dom. There’s a lot to be said about any kind of D/s relationship, as they can all be quite intensive given the emotions and high arousal levels that come from D/s play. However, there is something quite specific to be said about deciding that someone owns you. This isn’t something that’s often done lightly, and it can be a form of “taking your relationship to the next level.” This might just be the key to a healthy D/s relationship before, during, and after ownership... All play requires a “yes”. If it’s a “maybe” - put it off for another time. Talk about it more and sort out your worries. Writing these articles is always so interesting to me because I get to explore the technical side of things while also bearing in mind (and oftentimes sharing) some of my personal experiences with the things I’m researching.

Spanking. Orgasm Denial. Silent treatment. All are forms of punishment that a Dominant can use to punish their submissive. Some people like the idea of punishments. In fact, that may be their biggest attraction to the BDSM way of life. But it’s not the main draw. Speech Restrictions- The submissive is not allowed to talk to the Dominant. For me, this would be a very painful punishment. I need a voice and to be unable to speak to him would be very painful. Ownership, or having a submissive submit to you in this kind of intense way, can be an incredible thing. And what do we do with incredible things? We celebrate them. There can be such a strong bond between a Dom/me and their submissive, and to cement that ownership link between the two of you can be something very much worth celebrating. As I said, a delicate balance. Why do I bring this up? Because I think mastering and maintaining this balance is an ongoing thing that needs to be kept in mind, especially when talking about intensive things like ownership. Options for ownership in D/s dynamics

One Foot In The Grave... Literally

Ownership, or giving yourself to your Dom/me in this way, can be the ultimate act of obedience. It can mean giving up other play partners and focusing solely on your Dom/me. It can mean that your Dom/me is given things from you (submission, gifts, etc) that no one else does. This can feel like an amazing way to obey and submit to your Dom/me if you’re ready to take that next step. To a Dominant, ownership can be about pride.