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Get Divorced, Be Happy: How becoming single turned out to be my happily ever after

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It caused a lot of distress for my partner and my family (particularly my mother). For them, it had come out of the blue because nothing was “wrong” in their eyes so nobody understood why I wanted to leave. I stayed for a while longer because of the upset it was causing but also because of the pandemic. When COVID-19 hit, I had nowhere else to go. I knew my grandparents would have taken me in but it was 2020 and I didn’t want to risk spreading anything, so I stayed. From the messiness that comes with untangling two lives, splitting assets, facing the dissolution of mutual friendship groups and being ‘too young to be divorced but too old to be single’ in the eyes of society, we speak to women about the highs and lows of starting over and the lessons they learnt when they decided to reclaim their happiness. I became unexpectedly separated ten months ago and I was looking for a book that was positive in tone and that would fill me with hope and appreciation for the things I've gained. This book tried really hard to be it but it didn't quite get there for me. That I am my own person and no one can control you and you do what you want, as I am allowed to be happy. Citizens Advice is also a great place to start if you’re thinking of splitting and wondering how to start the whole process. They’ll be able to tell you your rights, and put you in touch with low cost lawyers in your area.

Get Divorced, Be Happy by Helen Thorn | Waterstones Get Divorced, Be Happy by Helen Thorn | Waterstones

I often heard the saying, “if he wanted to, he would.” I never realized what this truly meant, and now I do. ChloeHere’s the thing: some marriages just don’t work out, regardless of age. A couple were happy until they were not and irreconcilable differences aren’t reserved for the middle-aged. I changed who I was to put you both first but now I give up.” When Adele released “Easy On Me” – the first song on her long-awaited fourth album 30 – the lyrics hit home for many women who divorced young. Lots of things resulted in it but the moment I realised it was over was when we moved into our house and he kept accusing me of having affairs, phoning me when I was at work events and ruining the nights with it, then there was the fact he didn’t want to come with me to see family or be bothered with them. The singer’s experience isn’t unique but due to the stigma and social commentary that often surrounds divorcing at a young age, it felt refreshing for her to be telling that story publicly having made it through the other side; committing both her pain and healing to record in an album millions of women could blast along country lanes, throwing their legal paperwork out the window for years to come.

Divorced: 4 Women Share Their Stories of Getting Happily Divorced: 4 Women Share Their Stories of Getting

My ex and I are still in love, but he is unhappily remarried now with a new family and he doesn’t want to leave his kids. We see each other occasionally for lunch, but these meetings don’t go further than us declaring our love for each other. By the time I realised I’d made a terrible mistake (about six months later) my ex-husband had already met the woman who would become his second wife.I know what I want now, and I can take as much time as I want. I have also found that my marriage and how I was treated, left me damaged and questioning if I am allowed to do it now after I wasn’t allowed to before, so I’m having to adjust that I can do stuff I want. I’ve also found that I want to share my emotions and thoughts better now as well. I’d also want people in this situation to know that even though it will be hard, you will come out the other side and be happy again. Alicia Chloe I was married to someone I wasn’t even sure I wanted to be with. But there I was and a year later I ended up pregnant. Jasmine How did you find telling other people about your decision, did you ever feel a pressure to stay through fear of other people’s opinions?

Get Divorced, Be Happy : Helen Thorn : 9781785043697

Never put up with behaviour from a partner that you wouldn’t expect from a best friend. What Are Rule The Rules For Divorce In The UK Get Divorced, Be Happy: How becoming single turned out to be my happily ever after, by Helen Thorn. A legal separation may be a good option if you have been married for less than a year if you need some time to figure out if your marriage is definitively over, or if you have religious reasons not to want to get divorced. So if you’re considering going it alone, please don’t feel isolated. The resounding opinion is, it’s not as bad as you think. In fact single parenting can be really lovely sometimes – and there are mums all over the world acing it. But if you’re struggling, or feeling unsure, then there are plenty of books, advice and guidance available. I had felt it for a long time but I kept brushing it aside and told myself I was just going through my own stuff and it wasn’t the relationship that was the issue. The main reason for convincing myself of this is because there was nothing explicitly wrong with our relationship that made me want to get out. I just fell out of love with him and it didn’t feel like it once did. It was like living with a good friend.I did worry about financial struggles. I was only working part-time as I studied with the Open University, so I knew I wouldn’t be able to support myself if I went solo. That’s why I’m so grateful for my friend who allowed me to stay with her. I was able to afford to pay her some rent money whilst studying. It also meant that for a long time I was trying to save money in case I needed it for my car, divorce proceedings and other costly things, so I lived on beans on toast and didn’t treat myself for a while.

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