How To Talk So Little Kids Will Listen: A Survival Guide to Life with Children Ages 2-7

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Toddlers need to be told a thousand times. Children under two have difficulty internalizing your directives. Most three-year-olds begin to internalize directives so that what you ask begins to sink in. Do less and less repeating as your child gets older. Preteens regard repetition as nagging. 19. Let Your Child Complete the Thought Would recommend this book for frustrated parents, and definitely for those who do not believe in Biblical parenting as I think being kind is a whole lot better than yelling at children. (As I have unfortunately seen often.) For parents that are raising their children Biblically, with teaching, correction, encouragement, and discipline, and teaching them God’s ways this book can still be helpful if viewed in the lens of purely motivational for specific instances.

Getting a consequence and a punishment….the child is still getting pain in the hope of changing their behaviour. Tell kids what they can do instead of what they can’t. Example: Instead of saying “Don’t throw sand,” say “Sand is for pouring and digging” (195). I think this is good advice, but I think it’s important to include the information about what the kid should not do: “Sand is for pouring and digging, not for throwing.” If you don’t include the “not for throwing,” then the kid might think it’s still okay to do it. Describe your child’s progress – Explain the process he/she completed when he/she accomplished a goal like sounding out each letter and putting them together to complete an entire sentence! Respect a kid’s struggle and encourage them to try. Doing it for them removes their agency in the world, which is even more frustrating than, say, a stubborn shoelace that won’t stay tied. Faber and King have done the impossible! This guide to how to talk so little kids will listen is BRILLIANT. Every parent needs to read this book because it teaches skills that are solidly based on research. The book is magnificent."—John Gottman, author of Raising an Emotionally Intelligent ChildWould you consider the audio edition of How to Talk So Little Kids Will Listen to be better than the print version?

The authors are not pretending to give you a 100% working examples, since all kids are different this would be impossible, but rather many-many good techniques and advises. For over thirty-five years, parents have turned to How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk for its respectful and effective solutions to the unending challenges of raising children. Now, in response to growing demand, Adele’s daughter, Joanna Faber, along with Julie King, tailor How to Talk’s powerful communication skills to children ages two to seven. Kids often respond well when we give them the words they can use to get what they want. The younger the child is, the more explicit you can be about giving him the language you prefer to hear.” Instead of “Don’t leave your mess piled up,” try: “Matthew, think of where you want to store your soccer stuff.” Letting the child fill in the blanks is more likely to create a lasting lesson. 20. When You Talk to Kids Use Rhyme RulesComplex questions are an opportunity to explore something, so don’t brush them off with oversimplified answers. Ask them why they asked and what they think. You want your kids to trust their emotions, so don’t give them a reason to doubt themselves. Why the carrot is making them freak out is much more important than how ridiculous it is that they’re freaking out in the first place. Punishment is a top-down system that demoralizes when what you really want is to enlighten and instruct. If you want your kid to go outside to play, but the kid doesn’t want to, instead of suggesting for him to go outside, stay inside to play with him instead (198). This is completely catering to the kid. Practical Solutions for Everyday This book is a treasure trove of practical solutions for the everyday challenges parents face. From handling tantrums to navigating bedtime battles, it provides actionable strategies that can be applied immediately, making family life smoother and more harmonious.