Buy the F*cking Lilies: And Other Tools to Fix Your Life, from Someone Who's Been There

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It’s authentic without being preachy, and while I listened to it, I’m also so glad to have a hard copy so I can underline. Growing up in a rocky household with parents who later divorced, becoming a self-proclaimed "party girl," and then working through her issues and later landing a pretty high up job with Comedy Central is the gist of the author's life.

She does come off as very privileged and while I love that she was up front with that, I couldn't really relate to her life, and the pop psychology/girl, I got you vibe of this book kind of made this feel like a secular version of GIRL, WASH YOUR FACE, which I really can't stand. Instead of remaining on a self destructive path she took on the challenge of figuring out how to get the skills she needed to change and grow. That small, pleasurable thing that makes you feel like you are treating yourself – do not deprive yourself of this. If that’s something you are looking for, it’s a decent read, better than many dry tomes of this type. And the language she implores, like the overuse of the word "fuck" (which I realize is so ~*trendy*~ in self-help books now), and "supz" instead of super, "v" for very, was just a bit much for me.

She is ready in every chapter to admit how she ended up there, inexcusably hungover and covered in some of her vomit, and equally ready to say “hey I know I was a mess, but I want to help you like my friends helped me, so have you tried ___? She has been on medication for years for depression and anxiety and while she lays out long lists of guidelines to create rituals that will better oneself, she has included notes about how it’s ok to not follow them to the letter all the time. on any more advice from someone “who’s been there” (not where I’ve been) that amounted to the same (superficial? It’s for insufferable millennial women whose godmothers are Suzanne Somers (seriously) but have had imperfect upbringings and need to get their sh*t together despite working with famous people in an enviable industry and means to afford therapy 3x a week in their twenties.

A contributor to InStyle, The New Yorker and Forbes , among others, Tara Schuster lives in Los Angeles.As a current VP at Comedy Central, I think I would have been much more interested in a job-related book from her - one that explains her career steps in-depth, because I feel like that sort of information would have been much more valuable, and I probably would have taken that more seriously. Schuster's family-of-origin did leave her with plenty of baggage to deal with, and I can see how this book could serve as a lifeline for others looking for a path out of their own trauma, pain, and simple confusion around how to live a meaningful and happy life. Tara Schuster is an author, playwright, and accomplished entertainment executive, currently serving as Vice President of Talent and Development at Comedy Central.

I found it to be a kind of self help book with lots of ideas of things to try for changing the negative voice in your head, and just getting more positive about your life.

The 103 third parties who use cookies on this service do so for their purposes of displaying and measuring personalized ads, generating audience insights, and developing and improving products. She breaks things down into three sections- The Mind, The Body, and The Relationships, and she holds nothing back. When the plane is going down, even the mother in the instructional video will put on her mask before her child’s. Brutally honest, often hilarious, hard-won lessons in learning to love and care for yourself from a former vice president at Comedy Central. Part self help and part memoir, I consider this to be a self improvement book for “old millennials”.