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Boys Will Be Human: A Get-Real Gut-Check Guide to Becoming the Strongest, Kindest, Bravest Person You Can Be

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Have you ever noticed that there are unwritten rules that tell boys how to act, think, and feel Nobody knows where they came from, but one day—BAM!—you suddenly feel these invisible forces, pushing you to follow the rules of masculinity, even if they don’t make you happy.

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Justin Baldoni, American actor, filmmaker and podcaster, whose 2017 TED Talk on ‘what it means to be man enough’ went viral, has written a chatty, kind, honest guide to being a boy. Covering topics like being brave, being smart, being cool, as well as sex, puberty, bullying and being bullied, body image and love, this is essential reading for 10+. We criminalize the poor. Distance ourselves from them by subconsciously dehumanizing them. Telling ourselves they must deserve it, the system works and it could never be us. That’s our privilege. Are they hungry? People in our own communities. Hidden, forgotten, shamed… for being poor… This is just a bigger picture of what this book preaches. Sometimes it’s children in our own communities. What do we say about them? These are real people. We could be them at any moment. I will probably be one of them when my kids are grown because I will never stop fighting this inhumane system. Facile pop-psychology from a clinical psychologist with the credentials to know better. Assigning a chapter each to a select range of feelings—nearly all of them painful or negative ones, such as guilt, fear or anger, with but one shorter chapter allotted to the likes of love and joy—Lamia offers generalizations about what emotional responses look and feel like, typical circumstances that might cause them to arise and superficial insights (“Negative or worried thoughts spoil a good mood”). She also offers bland palliative suggestions (“Forgive yourself and move on”), self-quizzes, sound-bite comments in the margins from young people and, in colored boxes labeled “Psych Notes,” relevant research abstracts from cited but hard-to-obtain professional sources. Aside from a mildly discouraging view of “Infatuation,” she isn’t judgmental or prescriptive, but her overview is so cursory that she skips the stages of grief, makes no distinction between disgust and contempt and barely takes notice of depression. Teens and preteens might come away slightly more self-aware, but they won’t find either motivation or tools to help them cope with major upset. (Self-help. 12-16)

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Wanting to serve a community that has historically been underserved by mainstream media, I went to East New York as it is largely a community of color in a low-income area and looked for community centers and other programs where boys and men met already. I Rewatched ‘HIMYM’ After 4 Years and My Feelings Completely Changed: - https://edtimes.in/i-rewatched-how-i-met-your-mother-after-4-years-and-my-feelings-have-completely-changed/ By engaging a group of men, and then sharing the content of our convo, I will be able to reach a lot of men and encourage conversation and accountability among them. Even though I didn’t find any groups where men, especially young men, were self-gathering around this specific issue, I did find groups and organizations working to support boys and men and at least starting to have these conversations. Make It Happen, for example, serves young men of color between the ages of 16 and 24 who have been negatively impacted by community violence. More on them later. One thing that came up in multiple group discussions what that a truly masculine man is forever working on himself and it is fine to be emotional. In their individual survey answers, many of them said they left the conversation feeling that they should open up to someone close to them about their feelings more often — and that doing so could better their well being. One metric that signals that success is the way that they are getting together and gathering even without me or any prompting from me, and also exhibited in the group discussion I am hosting this week even after graduation because members of my community have asked for it.

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A penetrating look into the roots of global conflict, the many ways it can begin and possible resolutions. Have you ever noticed that there are unwritten rules that tell boys how to act, think, and feel? Nobody knows where they came from, but one day—BAM!—you suddenly feel these invisible forces, pushing you to follow the rules of masculinity, even if they don't make you happy.The name of my project comes from a very well-known phrase: boys will be boys. Michael Kimmel, an American sociologist and leading researcher and writer on men and masculinity, in 2012 asked, “Why don’t we say ‘boys will be boys’ when a man wins the Nobel Peace Prize?” And he asks a fair question. The phrase “boys will be boys” is often used to excuse problematic behavior rather than to celebrate the successes of men and boys. Catcalling - the act of shouting harassing and often sexually suggestive, threatening, or derisive comments at someone publicly So I started thinking that I wanted to get people together to share their experiences and then share that discussion online for even more people to relate to, learn from or be influenced in some other way by it. I realized from my initial research that having an informed discussion about how men are socialized is serving a huge need in the community of boys and men of color in itself. I encouraged people to follow me on social media and to use the hashtag #boyswillbe to either celebrate the boys and men in their life, to call our or expose traditional, old school ways that are harmful to men and others in their life or to talk about new ways to promote or discuss healthy masculinity — it is meant for as a starter for a wide range of discussions.In this highly politicized society, the term “toxic masculinity” to some is just a liberal scheme to emasculate and blame men. Our cultural concept of manliness glorifies stoicism, strength, virility, and dominance, and we know that it can be harmful to mental health thanks to the American Psychological Association.

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