Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto

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If you want a wild, honest read by someone who is on a mission to help others overcome shame when it comes to pleasure and sex (and who can easily weave humor and education throughout) then add this to your TBR. There is an entire chapter discussing how STIs are no big deal and that while they aren't fun they ought not to be stigmatized. Even with parents who encouraged his sexual exploration and three queer uncles, it took Zach years and many drunken blow jobs to accept his own bisexuality. I’m sorry Zane has a hard time coming with a condom on, but them’s the breaks if he wants to behave responsibly, not only toward his partners but also toward readers of his advice column and of this book. This warts and all, literally no holds barred combination of memoir, reflections and essays is a treat.

Star guests include Jojo Moyes, John Waters, Yaa Gyasi, Mary Beard, Diana Athill and Louis de Bernières—all in front of a live audience at leading glamorous locations world-wide. I fully admit some of the prejudices and thought patterns Zane mentions here, I’ve personally felt and done. Boyslut is largely Zach’s personal story (with lots of sex scenes) interwoven with a kind of owner’s manual for living without guilt as a non-monogamous bi person in today’s society. I have more to say about this, but this was one of the best (and funniest) books of writing about sex and sexuality I've read in a long time. Author Zachary Zane jerks us through the gutters, sex clubs, fabulous lays and wretched mistakes of his sex life.I followed Zachary Zane on Twitter before that platform imploded and he left it, and of all the bisexual voices I followed on there, his was the most explicitly sexual and outrageous, so of course I loved it.

It invites you to say "hang on, that's a bit much" because then you've fallen into the very same societal trap of judging sex when, really, it's all up to an individual in how they wish to discuss it.

If you want to read porny micrononfiction about coked-out hooks up, have at it, this book is your jam. A sex and relationship columnist bares it all in a series of essays—part memoir, part manifesto—that explore the author’s coming-of-age and coming out as a bisexual man and move toward embracing and celebrating sex unencumbered by shame.

com/damianbarrliterarysalon/ 8pm-9pm GMT May 9th 2023 for a Salon Insta Live Special hosted by Uli Lenart from Gay’s the Word.This then turns disparaging of healthcare professionals who just don't get it, referencing a nurse Nancy he was seeing at the clinic, because they aren't in the queer community. And reading about Zane's own sexual adventures is like getting invited to Sunday brunch by your wittiest, sluttiest, funniest friend and getting to listen to him recount his crazy weekend. But the most irritating thing was the little comments he makes about how the reader probably won't have partners as high-profile or simply as many as him is just obnoxious. Through the lens of his bisexuality and much self-described sluttiness, Zane breaks down exactly how this sexual shame negatively impacts the sex and relationships in our lives and, through personal experience, shares how we can unlearn the harmful, entrenched messages that society imparts to us.