Lesbian Blackmail: The Beginning

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Lesbian short stories have been around since the beginning of time, but throughout history and across the world, their voices have often been silenced. Our collection aims to unbury your gays and bring these stories to life in all their glory. We are very much in love, and our relationship is the envy of all our friends. We never argue and are loving and romantic all the time. We are both 28 and have been married five years.

My partner suspected something was wrong and I confessed. She went ballistic and would not let it drop. DEIDRE SAYS: Don’t get hung up on the G-spot. If you and your wife both enjoy your sex life, that is the most important thing. Your daughter is desperate. She is trying to find out the worst [hence the snooping] because this tells her how bad it is. She is snooping because she doesn’t feel safe.”You want to mend bridges with your daughter, which is good. But stop sending your friends messages calling your daughter names (edited out of your letter here). That is not going to help anyone and does not reflect well on you. When we don’t feel safe, when we feel information is being withheld, most of us will try to find out what’s going on He wakes me for sex at all hours when he’s aroused and sits in my lounge, watching porn, drinking and smoking. You fear what will happen if your husband finds out. But isn’t it worse to go on enduring what is happening now? He says he loves me and we have both grown up. He says he would happily try again if I had not been with the other guy.

I’m going to concentrate on the daughter angle of your letter, which I have edited to protect identities. A saucy, enticing erotic story about a sexual lesbian encounter at a university between a teacher and a student.Was the way he wanted to control you a factor in you splitting up? Perhaps you’re only happy and sorted because you are out of the relationship. If you forget, for a moment, about the way your daughter has gone about things, and concentrate on what you think she might be trying to communicate to you, what do you think that might be? Behind all behaviour there is a message, which we shouldn’t lose sight of. Few relationships started in our teens last long-term. Better to accept it’s over, stay positive and wait to meet someone who wants you for you. The psychotherapist Naomi Stadlen thinks that your daughter “hasn’t lost hope [in having a relationship with you], her anger shows she hasn’t withdrawn”. Stadlen feels that “this crisis is an opportunity to turn things around for both of you and to find a way to talk to one another” – rather than the extremes of behaviour you both have at the moment. You can get fresh insight with help from Relate ( relate.org.uk, 0300 100 1234). You can have 45 minutes of free online support to start with.